Living with severe anxiety and panic for most of my life, I never imagined a day where I would wake up without worry, fear, and anticipation – the kind that makes getting out of bed seem impossible. I remember staying under the covers hiding from every problem I thought I had, making life that much harder for myself and the people I love most. You don't have to let anxiety rule your life. Seek the help you need and be open with those who love you. And, when you find yourself in the middle of having a panic attack or chronic worrying, try the technique I discuss in this video. I hope it's the start of a new appreciation for yourself. xo
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I am only 15 yrs old and at school in yr11 my anxiety started very recently actually and it mainly happens in school but there is the odd occasion at home I am not someone who has always had it and I think it might be linked to my personal problems which I keep from my school as it’s personal iv been struggling with it for a while now I have tried quite a few methods like telling myself that how I feel is okay or trying to do the breathing practices to shut it out but the heart beating and nervous feelings are so constant I have tried talking to some of my friends but most of them never had anxiety or have very minor anxiety so don’t really understand and are no help to me has any got any advice on dealing with this? it’s very new to me
I do try to take control of it sometimes but eventually i let it control me because it drains my energy trying too hard to control it that i let whatever happens happen.....i don't even know if i made sense
My doctor say I have anxiety it been 2 year I just found out this year I can’t believe My self because of my insomnia I try not to use drug that doctor gave me At all I’m using other natural drug like melatonin 3mg sometimes work sometimes not that mean I know that it getting worst so I have to use st else stronger to knock me out that night woke up n start my life again waiting until another few day of these .. insomnia happen if that day I’m worried about getting up late and can’t do work or criticizing by other . Other than that I used to woke up with heart racing
n it gone after 5 minutes I still don’t know if I having a panic attack or not .
But I’m aware how my brain already knows that withdrawal is so dangerous and I’ve been told deadly it’s hard to disbelieve something that I’ve learned as fact if I knew it wasn’t from withdraws amd I was sober and panicky I’d have to come up with a new reason......so first step to rehab!!!
I have been suffering from depression for quite a long time. The thing that Mel mentioned about what you need to do when you're starting to have a panic attack all of a sudden. I really do relate to it. There was this one night, my heart started to race really fast. I couldn't stop crying and found myself hardly could breathe. I got out from my bed immediately and went to turn on the light right away, cuz I figured out I had to do something to get myself out of that state. I was so afraid that I wouldn't be able to control it because it made me felt like as if I was dying. So I thought I should find someone to talk with me, but since it was 3'o clock in the morning, I couldn't. Then I walked around my house. Eventually I started to calm down for some reason while I was doing that. I am just glad that I was able to manage it. And Thank You Mel, for explaining this in detail, now I could really understand what was happening to me! ❤
This happened to me today i drove my car to a near park i love to walk in start walking like 60% worked the problem was that i could not think a happy thoughts bad ideas start to grow and i went to a hospital. I clicked on this video later on and this woman is right because when panic attacks naturally i tried to run away in a positive way this also a good tv show specifically comedy helped me and the sound of the rain. Sorry 4 bad English
I pop my pills and I can be the most smooth dominant and fucntion that I can be Ive been to exericse theraphy but when it cums to clonazepam and exercise the best combo I ever had I rather be medicated than to be a aloser to whole of my life .. Im bipolar
While this lady Mel is well meaning, she does not have the answer to permanently ending or CURING panic attacks. I have cured my 46 year long fear of fear, bc that's what a panic attack is, just fear of fear. The book is called DARE by Barry McDonagh and you can find it on amazon.com. It's the true solution to end panic attacks forever! If you're a sufferer, please take a look into this book. You've got nothing to lose but your FEAR OF FEAR!
Although the lady in blue was trying to sell her book or her online stuff or whatever but whatever she explained would definitely help the other lady. The last hug would definitely give the patient a last ray of hope.
I have a question. My anxiety sometimes I call my episodes or at their worst typically in the morning but also unfortunately if I have to get out of the house and go anywhere at all. I don't necessarily Panic about the other people that are out and about. I panic about I'm not really even sure to be honest I get very sweaty but I look okay to everyone else my heart beats very quickly my voice speaks quicker. I become very self-conscious of my body I begin to think that I'm fatter uglier and grocer then other people if you were curious of the way I look describing what I'm explaining you may add me on Facebook and I have my photos on there. I have panic attacks daily and a lot of anxiety and unfortunately my husband is not a very good support system for me he does not like to hear me cry he does not like to hear that I have a problem just simply going to Walmart at the grocery store and he especially hates the fact that I really hate to go anywhere alone all I want is for him to go with me but he typically does not and believes that I am extremely immature because I don't want to go alone it's not that I can't it's just that it eases my anxiety. So I suppose my question is any tips or anyone else out there like that? Sending all my love to those who know how bad a heart can hurt
Inhave these before work inspections - weird thing is ervyoene says i donwell dirong the inspection - but im literally shaking and heart pounding and voice jittery
Sometimes I manage to act super confident and positive but always worried of what others are saying and thinking
Is it normal that I'm having anxiety bcoz i fear that people actually hear me swallow? It has been 3 years since I'm conscious of my own swallowing in school that i actually try not to swallow as i thought that people don't swallow since i couldn't heard theirs. It normally ended with a huge amount of saliva in my mouth which i would then go to the toilet or somewhere noisy to swallow. However i feel like my problem has worsen as i could not really control for the past 2 years. It got quite worse during my 2nd year where i actually had heart palpitations for a while (could be due to me carrying heavy boxes from the floor too) and heart pain during nightime while exams was just around the corner (could be due to stress but i did not experience this before). I visited the doctor and was tested for hyper thyroidism and ECG but results show normal; only that my thyroid level was abit low and abnormal which i had to take the test every year.
So here's my problem-when i swallowed i will still feel like swallowing, especially in crowded and quiet/enclosed rooms. I tried talking with my family about this issue a couple of times but they thought i was silly bcoz they couldn't hear me swallow. However it feels better talking to them as they'll always give me the assurance, but this assurance tend to disappear whenever i'm back to work. This could be due to me being more comfortable with my family and that they wouldn't judge me even if they heard it, so it could be due to my nervousness when im outside.
Apparently whenever i swallowed in school/work/train, ppl will be there to give nasty & rude responses like clearing their throat, coughing, sighing, drinking their water immediately. Its that kind of you dont want to swallow so you tried to think about not swallowing but yet end up with a forced swallow without that water or gulp (but with a sound in ur ear idk if this is the right explanation).
Bcoz of this i feel like my confidence and self esteem had dropped significantly (even tho it wasn't that high anyway too) and i have no idea how to go back to normal where i could stop worrying about my swallowing and that what i could do so that ppl won't hear my swallowing anymore. Tbh its gotten bad to the point that sometimes i feel like going to work is a torture, being in a quiet room is torture, and living too is a torture and i could end all of these pain... im really tired of being so anxious and ppl judging me giving me those responses every single time i swallowed. it makes me feel guilty and pathetic that i actually had to worry and be nervous about such a normal and daily thing that every person do...
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to share my thoughts & see if anyone could give me advice or if there's anyone out there who feel the same way as i do (if so i feel sorry that you have to experience this too) and thanks to those who actually read every single word here.
Bullshit I tried to take control of it all my life for almost 6 years plus I have anxiety whole days long cant even eat bcs of the anxiety just feel like dying all the time I want to kill my self but im to f scared and I love my son to much but I know for sure I cant take this anymore this is not what life is supposed to be this is not what life is all about.
Cant feel love cant feel control cant even breath 20 min of panic attack then a bit slighter attacks under the whole day just goin out to the store makes me wanna cry but I hold on cant even talk to people even normal people I begin to cry I act hard and happy but deep inside I just want to end my self Im so tired of it
I was delivered from this awful affliction after 18 years! All without meds, doctors or psychotherapy.
I had it BAD... I couldn't go anywhere or do anything for a long time; even drive a car 😣
Its truly a miracle & I'm not exaggerating a bit!
Now I'm not a psychologist, but as a Buddhist practitioner, who learn
how the mind works through Buddhist teaching, there's a reason where
this emotion fear, anxiety come from. The moment each one of us is born into this
world, there is a sense that "me is special and different from the rest
of the world". And as we're grown up, this sense of separateness become
bigger and bigger. This sense of separateness come from the Ego that is
programmed into your mind the moment you're born. Here is the thing, as
we've grown up and if we don't know about spiritual cultivation, then
this ego become strengthened, and bigger. The bigger and more
strengthened the ego, the more fearful, loneliness one become. Yes, ego
can deceive us to feel good when we see that "we are special and very
different from the rest". But that is just a deceiving from the ego, and
the price to pay for that "feeling good because I'm very special and
different from the rest" is the feeling of fearful and loneliness bigger
So as you see, the feeling of fear and anxiety already there for so
long, it didn't have to wait until something "scary" to be fearful. It's
just that we haven't noticed about it. Something "scary" is just an
event that amplify the magnitude of "fear" so that you notice it more
We can NOT "hack, suppress, kill" these negative emotion because the more we
try to avoid it by "hack, suppress, kill" then it can only TEMPORARY go away.
And where do they go? These negative emotion will stay deep into deeper layer
of the mind until something else come up to trigger it again and again.
So what is the use of practice Buddhism you may ask? The answer is,
as an Enlightened master, the Gautama Buddha know all the tricks of the
mind, so only an enlightened master know effective method how to cure completely
these diseases. One of such effective method to cure the mind, yes Buddhist
teaching is specialization in curing the mind. One of powerful method is
mindfulness so that you learn to observe the mind instead of
identifying immediately every time an emotion come up. This way, after a
serious practice then your ego become weaker and weaker instead of
stronger, because your wisdom through the practice arise. You will be
able to see the inter-connectedness among all sentient beings. The less
you see someone different from you, the less fearful you become. In
other words, you don't have a big ego and the reward you get is a sense
of peaceful instead of fearful. I hope it helps my friend.
Unfortunately, the western world you're living promoting a sense of
"i am very special and different from anyone else", "I need to promote
my specialness through doing a certain thing". That's why most of you in
a state of confusion and not sure which one right.
But if you want to know which one is the right way then you can ask
yourself this "All the conflicts in the world, the war, jealousy and so
on..."where it comes from if not from the ego, the sense of
That's why in our Oriental culture many thousand years ago, all the
Awakening saints and sages never teach us to promote "I am special and
different from the rest". Instead, we just promote a sense of community
and de-emphazing the importance of individuality.
There is no simple trick that will cure you. Sorry but it’s true and it’s better to be realistic. Curing a real anxiety disorder takes a lot of time, patience and therapy that suits you. No one trick works for everyone. But everyone had a unique solution that will work for them :) have hope and remember life is a journey taken step by step.
I have always fought my panic attacks and it does work. They always say "just let it take you, don't fight it, let it wash over you" but I completely disagree - if I let that happen I'd be on the floor screaming for help. Get up and pace, recite things to yourself, say out loud "no. This is not going to happen". And your body will listen to what you're telling it.
Single moment we can't live happy always some fear something going to happen my heartbeat increases suddenly vomiting sensation I can't explain this situation and nobody can understand what is happening inside of me
2 years I suffered with anxiety my lost option is suicide but now I am ok bekoz homeopathy medicine helped me alot at that only pure lov can save us pls don't leave anyone alone those who are suffering from panic attack and anxiety bekoz it is very horrible situation
How about just experiencing fear and make clear decision : I don't mind what happens to me . And your body shaking and you wanna run and your voice is hard to say things . And you as a witnessing presence stays there and watch how fearful YOU disolving and disappearing forever .
This is first idea comes to my mind : If anexity is delusional why doing anything about it let that car hit you ! 🙏
You running from car , you running from car and you running from car but nothing changes , fear is still there you go nowhere . So just let car hit you , that must be solution . If you running and running and you never run away just stay with it and whatch what's happens .
Like spiritual teachers says Fear is illusion just be awareness that witness .
Or motivation speakers say : Face your fears and you overcome them .
Same thing , just stay in your anexity and in few days should be completely gone and you transformed maybe or at least changed your perception .
you need to find out what the root cause of your anxiety is and work with that to bring your body, mind and heart IN TUNE with one another-in a state of coherence. you need to spend time alone and notice what things trigger you and how that relates to your current state. our bodies are extremely intelligent so anxiety is essentially your mind telling you that something you are doing, feeling or living is not in alignment with your highest truth. Once you have that settled you are ready to notice all other contributing factors. take it one step at a time and know that anything can be cured! we were given the power to self heal and that is the greatest gift but we must also want to listen to things that might be painful, things that our higher self has been trying to bring to our attention. we only tend to listen when the music gets too loud (anxiety, panic attacks). much love xoxooxooxoxoxxo
I'm sorry but in a real attack, you can't even think, let alone imagine a happy place and count down. When I'm having an attack, I will.always think it's a heart attack and rush to the ER. Cause you never know when it will be the real thing, and panic attacks can actually be heart attacks, so you are screwed either way. ....FML
I relate you get scared and dizzy and shake and u freak like u are gonna die u also have heavy breathing....but if u get in the shower and watc YouTube and just think about something different it helps I just had one they're scary but u will be ok and it will go away #fightit #win it
What would a psychologist say about why she had to use the word “Fuck”? I think she’s taking advantage of people for the money, I had panic attacks for over 5 years. Was scared to get too far away from hospitals. I would sit in emergency room waiting rooms “ just in case something happened “. One night I saw a program on tv about panic attacks , and realized ,that was I was going through. I was no longer scared and never had another attack. It’s been over 10 years. LET IT GO !!!
Face what's really hiding in your head. Stop ignoring. It catches upto you. Face your thoughts and fears. Remember everything is temporary and you are the master of your life and the master of your thoughts.
Anxiety and ocd lives in people who don't like uncertainty or doubt. The best thing for anxiety & panic is to just let it be. Do the opposite of don't just sit there do something, instead sit there and do nothing! Anxiety wants you to be scared and PUSH it away. Better yet try a paradoxical approach and tell anxiety to please make me more anxious. After awhile your amygdala will no longer respond to a false alarm. The anxious content in your head is irrelevant, it's our relationship to the content that gets us. The more you resist the more it persist so tell tell anxiety to fuck off and bring it on!!
I've had anxiety all my life... the only way to get rid of it is to acknowledge that is there but then ignoring it by keeping active with working hard, excerising.. etc. It's like a bully don't let it steer you!! And eventually it goes away temporarily but when it comes back keep ignoring it...this best solution without taking medication.
She really knows what she’s talking about actually I’ve dealt with this shit for so long, but the cycle will end once you realize you’re okay and that you’ve been through this loop before. I let this control me also sometimes. I really wouldn’t wish this on anyone anxiety depression and panic disorder all work together to tear the body down.
I get anxuety attack n have no reason why i do but today was my 2nd time i get it at about 430 a.m ....i mean i went from being asleep to waking up with an attck ....i gi to work at 6 and i had to miss cause it takes me nearly an hour for it to go away .....i would forget and all of a sudden it comes back.... sucks really bad 😢
I came Back from surgery its been a few days and I cant stop panicking and when Im not panicking Im always thinking about bad things, and a specif gear clouds my head at every seco d, i cant eat, i cant sleep and my mind doesnt stop. Help I cant take it anymore
I started the rewiring process yesterday, I think Im having progress, because I DONT think about bad things anymore, but the brain keeps reminding me of my crisis and asking me if im ok every second. Still, is this progress, how can I continue and how to make the next step, engaging in my activities completely without having that internal judge asking me if Im all right?
i mostly get panic attacks while i'm just about to fall asleep and than booom .. deja vu, weird thoughts from every different moment of my life and after it's gone i can't remember what those thoughts rlly were
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Depression Medications (Antidepressants)
These are the most commonly prescribed type of antidepressant.
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SNRIs raise levels of serotonin and norepinephrine, two neurotransmitters in the brain that play a key role in stabilizing mood.
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are the most commonly prescribed antidepressants. They are effective in treating depression, and they have fewer side effects than the other antidepressants.
SSRIs block the reuptake, or absorption, of serotonin in the brain. This makes it easier for the brain cells to receive and send messages, resulting in better and more stable moods.
They are called "selective" because they mainly seem to affect serotonin, and not the other neurotransmitters.