When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere.
Celeste Headlee has worked in public radio since 1999, as a reporter, host, and correspondent. She was the Midwest Correspondent for NPR before becoming the co-host of the PRI show The Takeaway. She also guest hosted a number of NPR shows including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, Weekend All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition.
Celeste holds multiple degrees in music and still performs as a professional opera singer. She's the granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers. Celeste is an avid hiker, biker, paddler and dog walker.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
And I absolutely agree with you. My father taught me that you always can learn something new from everyone. He used to say " living is growing up, and the day you stop growing up means you are dead. And growing up mean learning every day. " and " different point of view will feed your soul" . So every conversation I start I started with that intention but when I try to exchange ideas or points of view with my husband he goes mad". Always. And I am really trying to understand a new culture here.
YEs !! I love it !! you are totally right...there is no reason in look like you are paying attention if you are not paying attention! I Grow up in a Family who enjoys conversation and I having a hard time to have a conversation with my American Husband. He doesn't listen. that's it.
"7. Try not to repeat yourself" On the one hand this is true, but on the other hand it can be a psychologically effective persuasive device, as used a lot by Trump during his presidential campaign. He repeated himself a lot which led to people better memorizing and accepting his messages. I guess this also depends on the way and context in which you do it.
I naturally do almost all rules and i found that not all people are admirable, many people repet themselves, many people are too brief and they talk superficially, almost none of them do well with open question and generally their personality arent too deep. So now I ignore you before you show you have something to express. I met people who dont do much but they can express huge amount of experience and people who do much but they arent even interested in their own life and when you talk to them they are in their smartphone.
wow, i thought i am pretty good at listening apart from some topics where i get easily hurt or insulted but these tips are great. can't imagine a single person who couldn't learn something from these. repeatedly. :)
I've always thought he was a good talker with a great conversation skill. I fulfill many of the points that she comments, but I've realized that some ones I used them backwards. One of the best Ted Talks of all time. 10/10
Minute 3:34 is the best one ! So many times I have stopped paying attention because I've distracted myself by wanting to show that I am paying attention! - This is the best advice I have heard in a very long time. Thanks!
*tbh it's hard when the person doesn't know how to hold a conversation, but even then it can be done. I think that the other tips of looking someone in the eye are great, repeating back etc are great. I love eye contact, it's my favorite*
Trying to talk to people is pointless. The average human brain is a few fries short of a happy meal and it is only getting worse. The world is a cesspool of homicidal maniacs and anyone who thinks that this condition can be turned around is delusional.
Really nice talk, great advice. I like the idea of "preparing to be amazed" by just listening to people...very cool. Thank you! I am a hairstylist, and next time you're doing a Ted talk, allow me to volunteer my services please.
We need to stop spreading this idea of division. That is the first step of undivision. Stop creating this belief that we are more divided than ever. We human race have developed through ages to get to this point where society has never been this accessible to one another and able to communicate one common language, if not a couple. You miss out the progress we have accomplished from the past and tunnelvision yourself to current. No offense to you but please spread more constructive topics to promote growth.
Wow!! She is really a bad teacher. If you want to talk to someone its better to show you have something in common. If someone hates there job. Then they want to talk to someone who can relate. This lady is clearly out of touch with reality.
You have to listen to work as an orderly in a mental hospital.
You have to report it to the nurse.
Communication skills in Systems Analysis include good report form to the authorities to approve budget as well as other.
Listening is a SKILL .... to just be quiet and not cutting in with your own comment ... LISTENING is about HEARING what was said ... being PRESENT and able to repeat back what was said ....
I just got out of a 10 year relationship with a covert narcissist.... They of course are NEVER wrong ... which of course means they are ALWAYS right ... and his version of listening was to not talk ... Well that was a BONUS for him cuz he hated talking .... But he never really HEARD anything I said ! ... Consequently the relationship ended .... MOSTLY because of his emotional immaturity and his inability to communicate ANYTHING .... and without EVER feeling heard on top of never feeling valued for what I brought to the relationship.... OH and of course his numerous bouts of infidelity didn’t help ! But as a narcissist cheating just comes with the territory ...
Not saying I didn’t have a part in it all cuz that’s not possible when two people are involved .... HOWEVER when you are never really HEARD how can you continue to feel PART of something ... YOU CANT ...
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They aim to correct chemical imbalances of neurotransmitters in the brain that are believed to be responsible for changes in mood and behavior.
Depression Medications (Antidepressants)
These are the most commonly prescribed type of antidepressant.
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SNRIs raise levels of serotonin and norepinephrine, two neurotransmitters in the brain that play a key role in stabilizing mood.
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are the most commonly prescribed antidepressants. They are effective in treating depression, and they have fewer side effects than the other antidepressants.
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They are called "selective" because they mainly seem to affect serotonin, and not the other neurotransmitters.