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How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste Headlee | TEDxCreativeCoast

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere. Celeste Headlee has worked in public radio since 1999, as a reporter, host, and correspondent. She was the Midwest Correspondent for NPR before becoming the co-host of the PRI show The Takeaway. She also guest hosted a number of NPR shows including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, Weekend All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition. Celeste holds multiple degrees in music and still performs as a professional opera singer. She's the granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers. Celeste is an avid hiker, biker, paddler and dog walker. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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Wilhelm Otto Dusseldorf (6 часов назад)
I need this bad.
Jared Roussel (15 часов назад)
Sweet ending.
qwerty (22 часа назад)
Funny how these videos always assume everyone loves talking but for me, I don't like to? I much prefer listening
Candice L (23 часа назад)
Some of us may not be able to process information without speaking excessively or listen to someone without it being overwhelming. Neuro-diversity (such as autism or ADHD) can make it very challenging . I listen very closely to people but because I talk a lot it is often assumed that I'm not listening. I have to practice all the time (to speak less) as I also have no sense of time. I have thought I was speaking for ten minutes and then realise it's WAY more than that. I like the way she presented this talk.
Alina Yurch (23 часа назад)
hats down!)
Miguel tvid (1 день назад)
kim kon (1 день назад)
Little did she know..
Rebekah W (2 дня назад)
so said - exactly!! that's what I care about!! :) I care about you!! but some people are jerks... they just don't give away much even if you ARE trying to find common ground - they'll sit there in the middle of a session twiddling thumbs - even holding their phone - and when you ask them - they say "I have something very important you know etc." - and the whole time they're there - they never even apologise for their behaviour - they just do their own thing.. really what that's saying to you is "You're not important". Because if someone's really important to you- you'd listen - be open, go in assuming you have something to learn, and also go in prepared to share something - interesting - you ARE interesting - and you KNOW they're not listening - it's absolutely maddening .. because you're like - I spent all this time here - paying attention to you - and you're not even engaging with me/this activity. it's so incredibly rude.
R. B. (2 дня назад)
She's a great speaker wow.... and it makes sense. I mean, she giving me speaking advice sooo
vhtriyok (2 дня назад)
Absolutely wonderful. Required viewing for any serious Communicator.
Liz Smith (2 дня назад)
you can always assume you have something to learn but what if you're exhausted and just want to nap
꧁BananaMuffin꧂ (3 дня назад)
At first i thought her heavy breathing was kinda distracting but i got used to it and it ended up adding a kind of passionate affect to the speech also this speech made me happy
Black Kobra (3 дня назад)
Did you listen?
Quentin Louisiana (3 дня назад)
You are right but 99% of people will not do what you suggest
Quentin Louisiana (3 дня назад)
Best to be stoned, drunk or dead
birdandflower369 (3 дня назад)
Brilliant talk. Everyone has something amazing about them.
Lakiesha Cassady (3 дня назад)
Lool i know this is random but what's your favorite movie and why ? lol
David (4 дня назад)
Dude in the front is a creep
Hans Fast (5 дней назад)
Love t! Thank you so much for spelling it out.
Bimpey Mohammed (5 дней назад)
I love it! Was engaged through out your conversation. Thank you!
dlr1668 (6 дней назад)
You cant have a conversation if your a snowflake liberal. Trump 2020
Thornress (6 дней назад)
yeah I have the opposite problem. How do I make people listen to me?
Sofeea K (6 дней назад)
Loved this talk. But those clicking noises... very distracting.
Mulya Noval Nugraha (7 дней назад)
That guy's laugh was like the man's laugh from Mr. Bean's train
The Rad Rocketeer (7 дней назад)
4:30 to skip the intro
Melissa Catherine (7 дней назад)
Love it!
Maha Odeh (7 дней назад)
Aviate (7 дней назад)
Dreadstar LOL!
Si Wheeler (8 дней назад)
Sorry I drifted off elsewhere after a couple of minutes...
JustChillenWassup (9 дней назад)
Theres a click that zaps my brain.....and i like it
Gooby and Dolan (9 дней назад)
The problem I have with listening is that depending on the person you are talking to (whether they are good listeners or not) the conversations always shifts to someone who listens less and thus talks more if only to keep the conversation from dying. Gosh I have problems...
Ceko (10 дней назад)
Do you ever feel heard if all you do is listen?
Dodgy Skull Guy (10 дней назад)
How to have a good conversation *now with added realism* : 1. Find a good meme. Send and await response. 2. Receive meme, provide feedback, and send another meme. 3. Repeat. 3. Repeat.
james88 (10 дней назад)
Your mama so poor she cant even pay attention
james88 (10 дней назад)
Shinwoo K (10 дней назад)
Quite a lot of this doesnt count just for conversations. Is way wider.
DIMENSIONS Design (10 дней назад)
Now I know why I'm told that I'm a terrible conversationalist. I tend to violate at least 7 of these 10, and sometimes all of them.
D.E.B. B (10 дней назад)
No, not everyone is an expert at something. There are a whole lot of mediocre people out there, who can barely do anything adequately.
Sachin Vartak (11 дней назад)
Lovely video.. there are more than a bunch of things when it comes to conversation. The most important one being with your conversation are you able to keep the other person interested or engaged (without either offending or beating the bush). If one has this skill all other things become secondary. I am in a corporate sector where people who are my seniors are frightened when it comes to public speaking or say giving presentation. But I enjoy it a lot.
Mufasa Von Ubar (11 дней назад)
Lenovo Lenovok (11 дней назад)
Be prepared to be amazed, Wow that is kind of what we actually serche for in someones personality. She was talking with lots of passion and kindness. Nice for you!!!
Juan Rodriguez (11 дней назад)
Thank you.
Ryan Ewing (12 дней назад)
Namk (12 дней назад)
This talk is gold <3
Caleb Tsai (12 дней назад)
"Number seven, Number seven(repeats herself), try not to repeat yourself." LOL great presentation
Naomie Laguerre (11 дней назад)
Caleb Tsai It was so condescending! lol
Dajah Love (12 дней назад)
Social awkward squads 😂😓
andthenifellinlove (12 дней назад)
This is a great talk. Thank you for spreading the inspirational words. I added some more things to my teacher to do list. 🤗
Isaic02 (12 дней назад)
6:00 Bill Nye altered the saying to be more accurate and she just reverted the phrase to its inaccurate form.
LJC (12 дней назад)
I used to text my friend once a month and we had a great chat but it feels so awkward to see them face to face
Nicolas Collins (13 дней назад)
She stood in 1 spot for 10 minutes... why is she so out of breath?
The Rad Rocketeer (7 дней назад)
Probably because she's speaking in front of an actual assfull of people in a room, and an absolute titload of people on the internet? Public speaking is scary.
Unity (13 дней назад)
Bullying to embarrass, humiliate, or generally 'troll' people for any reaction at all makes me scared to start conversations. It's like playing gotcha games whenever I get involved in a chat.
F. Herumusu (13 дней назад)
The unability to argue about politics made Trump as POTUS possible. And no, a conversation is not necessary a "balance", sometimes things are simply *wrong* : "Give me all yor money!" "OK, I give you half of it! Seems like a fair deal" is nonsense. And then you have to stand up and fight your opponent.
blameitonablackstar (13 дней назад)
I'm gonna be rewatching this one. This was very helpful.
Afzal ahmed (13 дней назад)
And india news debates is 6 × 255 = 1530 words min Destroy people mind... In 30 min
Semeki Uzuio (14 дней назад)
It's harder to make conversation when you really dont want to. Every average low paying job involves people and talking, being social and "nice". But some of us get paid to be that way not because we are that way. I can say I did learn to BS conversation and speak mindless things I dont care about. It's quite humorous seeing people invested in our conversation when I'm actually not.
mujeeb khan (14 дней назад)
Luved itt
dan casey (15 дней назад)
Very good talk. I'm someone who asks questions of others and genuinely listens. However, it seems rare in my experience that the other person is even moderately interested in me . . . or what I might have to say about the topic we might be discussing.
Jo Tetteh (12 дней назад)
Like she said, nowadays most people arent good conversationalists or listeners.
Anshul Goswami (15 дней назад)
The pic of "quote" appeared on the last point was said by Winston Churchill not by her sister......!!!!
quzzze (15 дней назад)
dat clicking sound all the time tilts me so hard
Prince Lara (16 дней назад)
How Ironic... Because i just listened to her and she just amazed me. Pretty cool.
Emeneka Love (16 дней назад)
Excellently said
Djoni Joensen (16 дней назад)
some people get really really mad and desperate if they not can post, write and talk through the wifi during the day time - that's the world today .. we can't be sorry it's our own fall 🤐🤐
Skye Aten (16 дней назад)
"we can listen to up to 500 words per minute" - thanks goodness for youtube's speed settings...
luna (16 дней назад)
*finger guns*pew pew ted talk
C C (17 дней назад)
wow she is beautiful
Lazy Cunt² (17 дней назад)
sup neckbeards
yashaswit singh (17 дней назад)
this was a truly well presented TED talk brief, to the point and actually useful. the content offered in the talk were things that could be applied without much effort.
Jenrique Saliendra (17 дней назад)
Adam Hellyer (17 дней назад)
Being less likely to compromise does not mean you are not listening. It means what the other person is saying doesn't move you.
Nero Marcellino (17 дней назад)
How to have a good conversation. Forget these “how tos”. You cannot make money on that though, and that is why you will hear these ted talks.
gainerspot (18 дней назад)
What did she say? I got distracted. texting, and telling a story to her about this one time i had a good conversation with someone. I was also texting an old friend of mine that I haven't seen in several years now, we use to talk to each other but we would always interrupt each other mid sentence.
PedRaM NG (18 дней назад)
Woah the ending was amazing
Nick Doe (19 дней назад)
Didn't know who her grandfather was - had to look him up
LazyHipo (19 дней назад)
Hi fellow awkward people
Elizabeth Davis (19 дней назад)
"Conversations are not a promotional opportunity." Even though this is a presentation, I felt she was promoting various ideas and political leanings. This turns me off from her overall instruction. Ex. NPR does this....
Mystic Draws (19 дней назад)
There was that one guy in the crowd that you hear the most
Melly Z (20 дней назад)
OMG she is saying things I realized in people. Some people always interrupt me when I talk and they talk about their experience. So I can never finished what I would like to say.
Jeffrey Morton (20 дней назад)
When I was younger, I wanted to learn as much as possible about the human experience. Therefore, I studied communication in all its forms and took pains to find "as many sides to the story" as I could. It seemed I could learn some truth from each and every person, though rarely the whole story from one individual. Now, it seems most people are just parroting some "company line" and are brainwashed beyond having anything worth listening to...
Steven Cordell (20 дней назад)
your bracelet or buttons on your sleeve, are clacking. ruined this all for me.
Family Zone Intl (20 дней назад)
Really great talk.
Nhien McCormick (20 дней назад)
I needed this
John Dahal (21 день назад)
You are really creative , thanks for this talks
Kipyego Hillary (22 дня назад)
be prepared to be amazed, love this
pietrocr7 (22 дня назад)
good talk
Jeff Dick (22 дня назад)
Conversation seems to be a lost art.
bj0rn (22 дня назад)
Important and funny talk! I'll work on my listening.
ahmed gad (23 дня назад)
amazing talk
Haru A. (25 дней назад)
I have an issue where the only thing I can think to talk about is how a person is doing academically because it is the only common ground I can think of on the fly. And usually talking about academics is dreadful and boring. Maybe for another TED talk, they can discuss is... "How to Start a Good Conversation" (that won't come off as rude or weird).
X Poekie (25 дней назад)
I'm gonna finish watching this particular Ted Talk later, but just a short story A few days ago I went out for some grocery shopping. I decided to get a bite at a vendor stand close to the store as well. While wating for my order to get ready I got into a conversation with a 65 year old ex Navy Seal who moved from Vietnam to the Netherlands. Long story short, respect everyone. Treat people the best you can, be polite and you'll be surprised what conversations you'll end up having.
david fenton (26 дней назад)
Conversation is such a great way to learn. Even when speaking people think differently, because they know someone else is listening and to get feedback responses adds even more to our consideration of alternatives and it's so useful to have our misconceptions refined and corrected and to take part in the refining and correcting of others. We can benefit from each others conversations so much.
Christy Ryuu (26 дней назад)
I love the ending speech 😍
Lisa Pepsi (27 дней назад)
I didn't feel those 12 mins. I thought it was 5, that was exactly the moment when I realized that I enjoyed this talk. Amazing!! Totally worth it.
Ilona Baier (27 дней назад)
frighting to think this was more than 3 years ago + to think how much worse things have got in ameriKa.
Chelsea (28 дней назад)
This was amazing
Paramitha Talim (28 дней назад)
Govind Singh Rathore (29 дней назад)
Now that's some good ted talk.
Godly Star fury (29 дней назад)
“Oh your god” She’s a witch. She just tawt youallz howz do be castenz spe ewoez n shiaet ! She did!
Godly Star fury (29 дней назад)
I seeeeent it she did5:17 to6:10 to
Godly Star fury (29 дней назад)
3:55 after why is their static in the background
omenkahelen (29 дней назад)
Start questions with "Who/What/When/Where/Why" - Love this tip!
Pink Tea (1 месяц назад)
Starts at 4:20

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