When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere.
Celeste Headlee has worked in public radio since 1999, as a reporter, host, and correspondent. She was the Midwest Correspondent for NPR before becoming the co-host of the PRI show The Takeaway. She also guest hosted a number of NPR shows including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, Weekend All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition.
Celeste holds multiple degrees in music and still performs as a professional opera singer. She's the granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers. Celeste is an avid hiker, biker, paddler and dog walker.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
Some of us may not be able to process information without speaking excessively or listen to someone without it being overwhelming. Neuro-diversity (such as autism or ADHD) can make it very challenging . I listen very closely to people but because I talk a lot it is often assumed that I'm not listening. I have to practice all the time (to speak less) as I also have no sense of time. I have thought I was speaking for ten minutes and then realise it's WAY more than that. I like the way she presented this talk.
so said - exactly!! that's what I care about!! :) I care about you!! but some people are jerks... they just don't give away much even if you ARE trying to find common ground - they'll sit there in the middle of a session twiddling thumbs - even holding their phone - and when you ask them - they say "I have something very important you know etc." - and the whole time they're there - they never even apologise for their behaviour - they just do their own thing.. really what that's saying to you is "You're not important". Because if someone's really important to you- you'd listen - be open, go in assuming you have something to learn, and also go in prepared to share something - interesting - you ARE interesting - and you KNOW they're not listening - it's absolutely maddening .. because you're like - I spent all this time here - paying attention to you - and you're not even engaging with me/this activity. it's so incredibly rude.
The problem I have with listening is that depending on the person you are talking to (whether they are good listeners or not) the conversations always shifts to someone who listens less and thus talks more if only to keep the conversation from dying. Gosh I have problems...
Lovely video.. there are more than a bunch of things when it comes to conversation. The most important one being with your conversation are you able to keep the other person interested or engaged (without either offending or beating the bush). If one has this skill all other things become secondary. I am in a corporate sector where people who are my seniors are frightened when it comes to public speaking or say giving presentation. But I enjoy it a lot.
The unability to argue about politics made Trump as POTUS possible. And no, a conversation is not necessary a "balance", sometimes things are simply *wrong* : "Give me all yor money!" "OK, I give you half of it! Seems like a fair deal" is nonsense. And then you have to stand up and fight your opponent.
It's harder to make conversation when you really dont want to. Every average low paying job involves people and talking, being social and "nice". But some of us get paid to be that way not because we are that way.
I can say I did learn to BS conversation and speak mindless things I dont care about. It's quite humorous seeing people invested in our conversation when I'm actually not.
Very good talk. I'm someone who asks questions of others and genuinely listens. However, it seems rare in
my experience that the other person is even moderately interested in me . . . or what I might have to say
about the topic we might be discussing.
What did she say? I got distracted. texting, and telling a story to her about this one time i had a good conversation with someone. I was also texting an old friend of mine that I haven't seen in several years now, we use to talk to each other but we would always interrupt each other mid sentence.
"Conversations are not a promotional opportunity." Even though this is a presentation, I felt she was promoting various ideas and political leanings. This turns me off from her overall instruction. Ex. NPR does this....
When I was younger, I wanted to learn as much as possible about the human experience. Therefore, I studied communication in all its forms and took pains to find "as many sides to the story" as I could. It seemed I could learn some truth from each and every person, though rarely the whole story from one individual. Now, it seems most people are just parroting some "company line" and are brainwashed beyond having anything worth listening to...
I have an issue where the only thing I can think to talk about is how a person is doing academically because it is the only common ground I can think of on the fly. And usually talking about academics is dreadful and boring. Maybe for another TED talk, they can discuss is... "How to Start a Good Conversation" (that won't come off as rude or weird).
I'm gonna finish watching this particular Ted Talk later, but just a short story
A few days ago I went out for some grocery shopping. I decided to get a bite at a vendor stand close to the store as well. While wating for my order to get ready I got into a conversation with a 65 year old ex Navy Seal who moved from Vietnam to the Netherlands. Long story short, respect everyone. Treat people the best you can, be polite and you'll be surprised what conversations you'll end up having.
Conversation is such a great way to learn. Even when speaking people think differently, because they know someone else is listening and to get feedback responses adds even more to our consideration of alternatives and it's so useful to have our misconceptions refined and corrected and to take part in the refining and correcting of others. We can benefit from each others conversations so much.
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