Jessica McCabe tell us the story of her life. Once a gifted child with bright future, who later lives a life of a constant failures, because one thing - her ADHD diagnosis. Until one thing changed everything and she realized, that she is not alone. Her Youtube channel HowtoADHD is dedicated to help not only people with ADHD, but also their parents, partners a teachers and to remind them, that they are not alone.
Jessica McCabe nám rozpráva príbeh svojho života. Kedysi nadané dieťa so žiarivou budúcnosťou, ktoré neskôr žije život plný neustálych neúspechov, len kvôli jednej veci - jej ADHD diagnóze. Až do momentu kedy sa všetko zmení a ona si uvedomí, že v tom nie je sama. Jej YouTube kanál HowtoADHD je venovaný pomoci a usmerňovaniu nielen ľudí s ADHD ale takisto aj ich rodičom, partnerom a učiteľom a takisto aj odkazu, že v tom nie sú nikdy samí. Jessica is the author of popular YouTube series How to ADHD focused on educating and supporting ADHD brains around the world. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
My school time was a nightmare because of ADHD. Then I found out about this ADHD thing, when I turn into 30, lol. However I found a way to live with it and use it as one of my advantage . It is pretty hard buy I am not feel sorry about it anymore.
Thank you. You never knew how much it helped. Especially when everyone around me doesn't understand why I did what I do and what I did what I didn't wanted to. Guilt enters and it's a vicious cycle which affected many different area in life. Thank you for what you've done. Finally got some direction. Yup. I'm finally not alone. Thank you.
I burst into tears when she got emotional, because I've been there. I'm there now. I had an emotional breakdown earlier after studying for hours and hours only to not finish on time, meaning I got a zero on an assignment.
Thanks Jessica, I am a mom of a six year old boy that has just been diagnosed with ADHD , and it has been a hard process.But knowing what is happening in his brain has helped us understand him and being the support he needs. Thanks for sharing, for being so brave and inspiring, we need more people like you! A big hug from Uruguay
Jessica, absolutely beautiful presentation. Made me cry. I’ve suffered from inattentive ADHD my whole life. Always felt like an alien. Barely passed high school, 22 jobs in 10 years.. it’s been rough. I finally found a career I excel at— physical therapy! I loved all of the analogies, words, and emotions you used to describe it. So perfect. THANK YOU for having the heart and courage to share your story. You are truly an inspiration! It’s so comforting to know I’m not alone. 🙏🏼
I’ve waited 63 years for a diagnosis!! Finally got it! Gone through six decades struggling with it. Thank you for this channel! Though I’ve come up with some of my own strategies to cope with my ADHD, I’m hopeful I’ll find more here. You go girl!!!
I am 28 and my resume looks looks like a madman's resume. I was a mailman, IT motherboard diagnostic shift serviceman, i worked as a dispatcher at the national mail station, 3-4 years at corporate logistic companies,court archives referent, security, i studied archaeology, now studying logistics, want to study finance and accounting. In everything i've put my heart and 110% of focus but got easily bored and moved on. A lot of things in the structure of society demands engagement and time effort. I just gave what it needed in the strech of 1/3 of the average spam and "voila" dont want to promote me to a new role? i am bored. move on. I have like a year and a half into data analytics and possess knowledge of at least very basics of R, SQL.
Sometimes, when people ask me about my plans i go sensory overload and talk so fast and so excited they just skip paying attention and feel i don't have a serious plan. Oh, i got 10 of those. Get a new job. OH NOW I WILL REDO THIS, FINISH THIS DEGREE, THIS COURSE. Man, ive swapped plans 4829348239483 times. Normal, ordinary people just worked and got to their goals by simple steps, i jump through the whole staircase and flip in the air three times. I do not feel superior to anyone. If anything, its the opposite. I do not want to tell i am too good for 9-5 tasks.
Ive started and quitted several jobs, tasks, college degrees. But i notice a pattern that is visible - i always focus on the interdisciplinary jobs. The bells are ringing, i just don't' know where is the church.
TBH. I am in a point when i am overqualified to most of the entry level jobs and not possess qualification for a specialist one. DOH.
Meditation helps, but after a long time of peace i get cocky and take a lot of tasks and try to sprint to get to the level of average and not be "the last one" for once but..then my yo-yo effect comes. I had quite some work done lately and felt one with myself since i made my linkedin account to help find a new, better job and then i got depressed again.
People from my yearbook are heads of the companies, every third or fourth peep has a software design degree and i have just a course in 20 different fields of knowledge.
Now i am trying to achieve anything i can in logistics focusing all my attention to several knowledge levels in one field, i dedicated my time to one job that demands a lot of attention and things to do and try to make myself busy so i jog , meditate, study at weekends, work at different shifts. EIther i will scare my boss or make him feel i am a comet of innovation.
I came here after I watched one of your videos on how to study with ADHD. I'm in the same boat you were: I'm really smart, but now that I'm in college, I feel like I'll start slipping soon because I lose so much sleep and time due to seemingly uncontrollable procrastination. I can already tell your videos are gonna be a tremendous help; I already feel super motivated to start making a change to my work habits before it's too late. Thank you so much!
T_T It is almost 2 a.m here and I have to go to school at 6 a.m. I have some assignments to do and they are due tomorrow (today). I really want to do it but I ended up watching motivation videos and glad I stumbled upon this video. I'm gonna start doing my assignments now. hahahaa 😂
I have a younger sister who’s always getting really good grades and is really good at the whole school thing, I have adhd and I’m not I use to be but i kept getting compared to her and they said “adhd isn’t an excuse” but I did try but eventually I stopped. I almost failed classes cause I didn’t care cause they told me i wouldn’t be anything anyway. This video helped so tysm for it I wanna be successful and I’m gonna start trying again and hopefully I’ll figure it out♥️
I’m literally not on my medicine right now so I’m trying to focus on this video but I keep scrolling through comments back up to the video back to the comments back up to the video trying to help myself focus lmao I hate adhd.
Your story is so similar to mine that it hurts. The only difference is that I've never been diagnosed. I've only even considered it because the 2 times I tried Ritalin... it made me realize that I've never known what it was like to be able to choose what I focus on. I will be joining your forum. It's a solution I didn't even know I needed, and I look forward to catching up on all the skills and information I wish I had three decades ago when I was wondering why I didn't have any friends.
Thank you so much for this. They refused to take me to public school without medication when I was five. They told my mother that I would never amount to anything because I couldn't listen. I graduated from grad school in 2013 and I'm the primary breadwinner for my household. That being said I was divorced twice before thirty and I have trouble maintaining friendships (I do have a BFF who takes my weirdness in stride, thank God.) I take mood stabilizers to sleep and I still can't sit through a whole movie, but I have a few people in my life that understand me, and I'm successful in my own way. Thank you for putting yourself out there.
I am 37 years old and have listened to dozens of podcasts (while working on random projects) and read half of even more adhd books. After finishing a masters degree in psychiatry but failing to receive the degree because of a time management (can only repeat a course once and B- doesn’t count). I recently lost my job because I got intensely overwhelmed after being sick and my house becoming chaos and not being able to focus and ashamed at my distraction and did not reach out for help. This talk reminded me to reach out and connect and how important that is, which she did beautifully through this talk. Thank you.
Hello, thanks for sharing this. I grew up with great scores at psychology tests, yes many times. I even once had an invitation to join a special acceleration class in high school. But that didn’t happened with my class scores, I had trouble even just to be the mediocre. I had distractions very very easily, it’s like my consciousness was never really there, with my body. That’s like having a two side coin, I believe I’m a creative person, but at the same time my easily-get-idea brain keeps me distracted. I really need some kind of therapy that could keep me focus and get one thing done in time.
Almost 24 and this is my first time crying about having combination. Also because it felt like a future me talking to myself. I have so much to offer and I’m in psychology to help people with autism but the other half of me thinks instead of getting PhD or md in psychology maybe be an actress I’d love it be great at it and could donate to the cause I’d like to be apart of...
My daughter was just diagnosed with ADHD--thanks so much for helping me understand her. I will show her this video as well. I want to help her as much as I can---she's so fun and caring and wonderful, but she also dropped out of school and struggles with time management and losing things. This video gives me ideas on how to help.
Jessica, I loved your story. It really resonated with me and it does feel good to know you are not alone! I think loneliness is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome. I know I isolate myself when I am feeling bad. The bad is usually the result of a perceived deficit in something I have just done...or tried to do. Then the isolation becomes more and more 'isolating'...it gets harder and harder to pull myself out of that dark place. I wrote down a few things you said that I am going to try to focus on. They are: Different, Beautiful, Not Alone.
I also realize the need for exercise, meditation and coaching. I do struggle with being consistent! I am headed over to your channel. Thank you for your honesty and grace in telling your story!
Thank you for this. I have adhd. I am in recovery over 5 years now. This week I have been reflecting on life since school. I was in special classes up too the end. I put on a video and let my partner head it. She said that is all you. I have my Owen business and other things that I would like to do. Yet it's hard. The remote control keeps changing the stations. Before I would use too numb. When I take time off work to rest am a mess.
Can believe I am still weighting. I would like to know more learn more. This will help me. May be I can help someone one day. We're do start. Now the big part. Press send Barman. Advice
I just got diagnosed with ADD after years of thinking I was just slow and lazy cause everyone around me was able to keep up while I wasn't. I've worried so much about my future and this really sparked some hope in me. I was bawling at the end. Thank you for your wonderful speech!
That channel switching comment made me cry. I literally said something similar yesterday.
My exact description of my thought process.
'I feel like I'm watching 30 movies on 30 separate TVs at the same time to give a synopsis of TV #7 after they are finished
Would love to know where your you tube group is... 46 yrs and have given up... not enough time left to learn... would also like to see the screen posts...ty!! Still falling farther n farther behind.... 😪
Had to stop at 8:19 to check out the awesome statistic. And stop a few more times because it is so so so much my story too I had to cry. From dropping out of university, losing jobs, seeking thrills, failed relationships... All while people think you need to try harder, work harder.
I work and struggle, hope to find such a positive way up as you have found/walked...! Thanks for sharing
I stumbled upon this video today; on a day where everything was just falling down around me literally and metaphorically speaking. Its so challenging to coexist with people around me who always say “it’s to early for all that energy.” The worst part is, people claim you to be bipolar when they say things like that and the very next day expect you to be best friends when you take your energy down a notch. Everyone I meet with ADHD....we click on a deeper level we just get each other intuitively. Sometimes even without saying anything we just know based on body language or facial expression! OMG our facial expressions though! 😂again thank you so much for your bravery and sharing ADHD in an interactive and creative way. That was lengthy whops.
I have never posted a comment on a youtube video just because I dont. Watching your video made me realize the underlying problem in my life. I am not sure how or what I am going to do or if I am even going to make a change but what i do know is that you opened many closed doors in my head I didnt even knew existed anymore. My life has been a rollercoaster of ups and downs and honostly I am currently lost not knowing what to do with it. I just turned 33 aug 20th and as I sit here well let me just say your video brought tears to my eyes and got me to post this comment. I have been losing my site on what it is I even want in life and if there is even something out there that I want anymore and is it within logical reach and if I get it then what....???
Your an amazing person and thank you.
Spoken from the heart. Ironically, after several + years of being off my medication, and after recently becoming a father, I finally sought mental help. Best decision I've made in awhile. If I could say anything myself from my own heart, it would be that your mental health is far too important to ignore. Whether it's ADHD/ADD or bipolar disorder, you don't have to suffer...my medication really helped me focus on everything she said, and to be honest it feels damn good to be able to give someone your undivided attention. Mental health is the only thing I really wanted to emphasize, because I believe it can't be emphasized enough. Warm regards to all who face adversity, you are not alone.
The first thing I want to say is that how much I was inspired by this video. The amount of work and preparation and practice it took just to get to the stage of the TED talk is outstanding. Then to actually be able to perform at the moment knowing that so many of the ADHD "tribe" are actually counting on you and your performance is all the more inspirational. You have personally helped me and loved ones in my family.
I really hope I don't seem like a crank for suggesting this but I wanted to share an idea I have:
Everyone I know who would meet the diagnostic criteria of ADHD has in general intellectual abilities that would score in the high superior range (at least among the people I know well or take care of professionally). These people are so brimming with thought processes that they sometimes require the extra help that medication, caffeine, and behavioral therapy, or combinations of these can provide, in order to appropriately prioritize their extraordinary collection of concurrent thought processes. This is what Russel Barkley calls “impairment of executive function”. In my mind I don't think it is really an" impairment of executive function " as in a deficit, or even worse a "defect", but rather, such people are obligated to develop the extraordinary control of their "executive functions",needed, to organize and appropriately prioritize the extra-ordinary number of concurrent thought processes, that these people posses. This puts me clearly and proudly in camp of considering people with the ADHD that I personally know as being gifted. There, I said it. I certainly don't mean that these people have a struggle-free life without great turmoil and this TED talk so clearly and eloquently shares with the rest of the world.
hey.. i'm 31 and i don't know if i have ADHD, i'm drop high school, when ever i watching movie, my brain keep think novel, when i read i keep think to writing, when i writing, i keep think painting, when i working i think other stuff, i have miserable life, i can't barely see my future now. i keep hanging in youtube, google searching, learning about brain. Because i feel suffocated now.. i want change, i want be someone. but my brain never let me focus in one thing..
Thank you SO MUCH for this Ted Talk. I was diagnosed slightly over three years ago after suspecting for some time that I did have ADHD. As a child, I scored off the charts on aptitude tests but had problems completing assignments and paying attention. I was the weird kid who never quite figured out how not to say and do awkward things. You sum this up perfectly.
Incidentally, I have been off my meds for slightly over a year, but I have been having problems focusing on work and on school. (I am in my final semester of college.) Also incidentally, my wife emailed this video home for me to watch almost a year ago. I just got to it now for two school assignments: one for a research report on the effects of ADHD on learning, and one for critiquing the presentation of our choice (and you did a GREAT job).
I already have some of these symptoms but I don't see them struggling me.
I know my goal and I can see it clearly, and so I'm just going forward without complaining...
You just need to train your brain on how and when to focus which maybe hard at 1st, but you need to insist on that ...
I'm incredibly annoyed that I'm sitting here at 2:00 in the morning, not sleeping, not doing the work I was supposed to be working on 5 hours ago, rewriting my to do lists, ignoring my business emails, with 72 tabs open, incredibly focused on watching ADHD videos.
I'll fix it all tomorrow, or maybe I won't, but the day I realized I had ADHD was the day I was able to start using it properly. I only wish I'd known sooner, before years of wasted time.
I always envied the people that didn't study or do homework and still passed and got A's. I studied harder for hours at a time and best I got was a C on tests, when if most people studied like that, they'd get an A for sure. So I gave up and didn't try for school anymore, barely passing with D's. but now I'm in college and I'm doing much better, I think some ADHD went away but it's still there. Im very well organized and I do the same studying mentioned earlier and I'm passing, but I'm spending too much time and it's frustrating. It's not just school, I forget EVERYTHING it's so annoying. Mostly things that were said to me. I wanna try the medication and see if it helps
i am watching this video because i want to learn about ADHD for my 5 year old girl. I felt sad when the doctor said those words today but i need to equip myself so i can help her get through life. Thank you for this video.
Wow.... I was diagnosed MORE than 8 years ago(I'm 17 now), and i only now realise that i can use it as an advantage instead of seeing it as a problem.
I am going to start finding myself WITH adhd now and what i can do with it. Thank You!
Greeting from Holland!
Very inspiring! It's always been a joke, "do you have ADHD or something?" And I never really explored why I am so different from most. Only very recently have I realized that it's because I do have ADHD. This talk was spot on and you inspire me!
I cried through this enitre speech. 27 years old. Always told I was extremely smart with potential. I passed my gifted testing in 3rd grade. Was tested ADHD in 4th. By the time I was in middle school, I already started skipping class. I found it easier to get disciplined, physically and mentally, then to force myself to focus on something that just wouldn't click. Not having confidence in anything I was "supposed" to be good at coupled with being picked on for my looks, the clothing I wore and not having anyone to connect with, both in school & at home as the runt of 6, I started having suicidal thoughts in 6th grade. It was also the first time I was arrested. So quickly I went from this shinny bright star my parents were all too excited about to a teenage delinquent who no one knew what to do with or even wanted to deal with. I spent most of my middle & high school career spacing out, causing distractions or not attending class all together & starting fights so I would get suspended. Being on juvenile probation was a dream because it offered me an excuse. If everyone thought I was the horrible kid who could do so much better but just didn't want to, I could hide in that. In actuality, my every being cried out every moment of every day. I knew I deserve so much better but felt despite my best effort, better just wasn't best for me. I gave up on myself at the age of 13. I felt I was nothing so I just sorta allowed anything. I had no self confidence and adopted this passive behavior I still struggle with today thinking having friends around who used or put me down was better than not having worth to anyone at all. I sure wasn't worth much to me. I was in & out of DJJ up until I became pregnant at the age of 17. 18 years old I became a mother, which was the most scary thing in my world. Not only did I have a child with a child who was not yet ready to become a father, no matter how much I wanted to be a good mom, I had nothing to offer this child. I couldn't begin to focus or hold a job I felt was for me and was miserable with all the work I found, I would either quit or be let go from. My parents supported myself and my daughter. I spent a lot of time trying to find a Suitor, for us both. One who would love my daughter as his own & one who would encourage me. 23, I buried my second daughter and was completely depressed. Tried a few different attempts to take my life. Soon after, I met my now husband. Everything was lovely but I became pregnant with my 3rd daughters & soon after, fell into another depression. Felt I replaced my daughter who passed in conjunction with feeling like I was dragging my husband who then, and still, works dead end jobs to make ends meet. He's literally my biggest support and I have so much to make up for from how I've allowed my insecurities to manifest on him. He has so much potential to be so much more and I tell him all the time he is better off without me. 27 yrs old, my 9 yr old has been diagnosed with ADHD & I see my 3 yr old well on her way as well. I'm a stay-at-home-with-not-other-choice-because-I-don't-fit-in-anywhere mom. I want to go to school & have tried one 4 different occasions just to drop out in the 1st few weeks. My husband, who was 23 when we meet & was aspiring to go to school is now working 60plus split shift hours at a plant just to cover the bills & put food on the table. I've been looking for work but there's a voice in the back of my head, the same voice I've heard from every person who's interacted with me from the time I showed symptoms till now, the same voice that would replay when I did try something just to withdraw prematurely because "what's the point?", that there's something wrong with me. My brain doesn't work. I can't/won't ever complete anything & I will never been anything. I'm on this video today because I called my local behavior health clinic in hopes that they can point me in the right direction of how to get help while not having insurance. My daughter will follow in my foot steps and already are. I need to lead them to a place where they feel accomplished and complete but for everything in me, I feel like a broken failure. The people I grew up with and a few I'm close with now are good to me in a general sense but they all carry the same annoyed, exhausted tone of what my life is & how I could allow myself to get to this place, who tell me things like "you've just gotta do it" "stop making excuses and go for it" thinking it will motivate me but it only puts me further down on myself as I developed more self hate, wondering why I can't just do something so simple when I've got this tremendous amount of potential. It's so hard watch those who were deemed "mediocre" have these beautiful, amazing lives they've worked hard and built for themselves who I'm completely happy for while me, "the gifted kid with so much potential" just wastes away not knowing where to begin on getting my life at least one single step ahead. I've gotten the "if you wanted it, you would have worked for it" shoulder shrug & it makes me sick to my stomach to watch some of my friends'/asscoiates' childern suffer while their parents view their struggle as a personal choice more than an actual condition. I kills me trying to speak on their behaves just to be brushed off and mocked due to my personal position and view in their eyes. I feel I am no good for or to anyone. I don't want to live like this anymore & sometimes, I allow myself to think I don't want to live at all. I'm so glad I watched this. I hope I'm able to connect with the tribe. I hope meds, I've always wanted to try but never have, will help. I hope I can still be me and find success and I hope one day I'm able to stop using the words "I hope" & replace them with "I will" & my daughters bathe in them.
Wow! What a brave lady. What an inspiration. If Jessica is standing up doing this I'd say, from a laypersons point of view, Jessica is 'doing' ADHD pretty well x My 7 year old shows some delicate signs of ADHD. With changes to our parenting style we are coping well, but I think we can always do better to help avoid him going through what Jessica did. I'll head over to How to ADHD thank you Jessica.
I think I had adhd. I was an excellent student. I could focus reading books and listen to teachers. But i couldn't get any work done. I always start and never finish. This became worse during adolescence. I was not diagnosed. Adhd was non-existent at that time. There were only 2 kinds of students: smart and dumb.
I learned to focus and manage to finish something big and work under pressure when I was 20. Then, i became introvert.
I wasn't diagnosed. Adhd was non-
Jessica, you goddess, I'm crying *again* watching this video because I can't help but click every time I see it pop up. You taught me more about my brain in a few weeks (binge-watching the entire channel several times over) than I ever learned about it in 10 years after the first shifts in my coping were noticed and the 2 years after I was diagnosed. I love you, you're adorable and amazing and brilliant and doing a wonderful thing and I owe you so. freaking. much. I found this talk and then joined the tribe and I cannot be more grateful that you and everyone that helped you exist.
Antidepressants are medications that can help relieve symptoms of depression, social anxiety disorder, anxiety disorders, seasonal affective disorder, and dysthymia, or mild chronic depression, as well as other conditions.
They aim to correct chemical imbalances of neurotransmitters in the brain that are believed to be responsible for changes in mood and behavior.
Depression Medications (Antidepressants)
These are the most commonly prescribed type of antidepressant.
Serotonin and noradrenaline reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs) are used to treat major depression, mood disorders, and possibly but less commonly attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), anxiety disorders, menopausal symptoms, fibromyalgia, and chronic neuropathic pain.
SNRIs raise levels of serotonin and norepinephrine, two neurotransmitters in the brain that play a key role in stabilizing mood.
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are the most commonly prescribed antidepressants. They are effective in treating depression, and they have fewer side effects than the other antidepressants.
SSRIs block the reuptake, or absorption, of serotonin in the brain. This makes it easier for the brain cells to receive and send messages, resulting in better and more stable moods.
They are called "selective" because they mainly seem to affect serotonin, and not the other neurotransmitters.