Jessica McCabe tell us the story of her life. Once a gifted child with bright future, who later lives a life of a constant failures, because one thing - her ADHD diagnosis. Until one thing changed everything and she realized, that she is not alone. Her Youtube channel HowtoADHD is dedicated to help not only people with ADHD, but also their parents, partners a teachers and to remind them, that they are not alone.
Jessica McCabe nám rozpráva príbeh svojho života. Kedysi nadané dieťa so žiarivou budúcnosťou, ktoré neskôr žije život plný neustálych neúspechov, len kvôli jednej veci - jej ADHD diagnóze. Až do momentu kedy sa všetko zmení a ona si uvedomí, že v tom nie je sama. Jej YouTube kanál HowtoADHD je venovaný pomoci a usmerňovaniu nielen ľudí s ADHD ale takisto aj ich rodičom, partnerom a učiteľom a takisto aj odkazu, že v tom nie sú nikdy samí. Jessica is the author of popular YouTube series How to ADHD focused on educating and supporting ADHD brains around the world. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
There was No ADHD in the 70's and 80's. Strict Parenting was an instant cure. And it worked! Demonize proper parenting... Combine the internet, video games and five-hundred tv channels, all of the sudden, ADHD is born. You Clever devils
ADHD here. I feel medications should be an ABSOLUTE LAST resort. Change your diet. That said, I am 32, in the middle of a divorce, going through hurt like I have never thought. My wife is leaving me because she cannot cope with the ADHD brain. She believes I simply do not care enough to change it. In short, she is leaving me because I am not "normal".
That is a very emotional story, I liked most of it. What I did not like about it is that you mention medicin very casually as if it is a good thing. The medicin you get for AD(H)D is based on amphetamines. And they even give these in high doses to small children. If you compare the symptoms to b12 defiency they are pretty simular, so maybe that is worth looking into.
It was amazing to listen do this video i have hdhd aswel as my 2 brothers my sister and my father People bulied me because of u even my teathers becouse they ditend understand wath it was en how to talk to me but the hardesd thing was to find myself and wath i wandelt but i made it im now a hair dresses en i use my adhd for good i showt everybody worng taht ever doutet me
Her description of her early potential and then ‘failure’ to grow into that potential was a gut punch - very similar to what I and some other folks I know have experienced. It’s humiliating, tbh. I certainly hope there is a way to improve for everyone with this condition.
I can totally relate. I was diagnosed at 7 years old. It was challenging growing up because while my friends got to have all the sweets and the jolly ranchers all they wanted. I was forced to say no because my mom didn't want to medicate me. I was following what was called the Feingold Program. I was a pioneer in going no artificial flavors, colors, and preservatives. It worked wonders. Around that time, before the Feingold Program, I was eating Batman Cereal and Yahoo chocolate milk. I couldn't focus to save my life. Afterward, I was able to sit still and actually pay attention to what she was saying. As soon as there was a parent-teacher conference and my teacher said to my mom "What did you do!" So from then on everytime, I would have artificial flavors I could definitely tell when I was unable to do anything right.
I'm watching this video, while I should be studying, but instead I decided to buy christmas presents, but then I thought of my ADHD and started to look up video's of other people's experiences, and while im watching this video I'm making food, and now I'm thinking about how I really should buy presents for my family so I don't have the same problem every year: buying christmas presents 1 day before christmas because I postpone everything
Just another regular day in my life haha, oops
Thank you Jessica, I am now seeking diagnosis and help I can't understand I am 30 years old and it was never spotted by any teachers or tutors. I was always assumed as just lazy but I thought it couldn't be that as I was genuinely choosing to try my hardest to achieve all that I could. This gives me an explanation, a direction and hope (and explain things like why I took 5 driving tests and why I forget about chicken in the oven overnight 🙄)
You are doing great work which really makes me pay attention and it's genuinely changing my life. Even when you have bad challenging days yourself please remember what a difference you're making to everyone on this feed 👍 I am currently getting divorced and looking at a career change and honestly don't know how I would have coped until my wonderful girlfriend suggested ADHD and it was Powerfully confirmed by this and all your subsequent videos.
You and your other half are fantastic !! Keep up the great work and if you ever come over to the UK and I can help with anything please let me know!
I only realised I had ADHD a few years ago when I read some information and did some research. It was such a relief to finally know what was 'wrong' with me after having struggled and failed all my life (I'm 59). Unfortunately, I still don't have an official diagnosis, as I had to break up sessions with my psychiatrist in the UK when I moved to Germany 3 months ago. Is there an online community where people can meet and chat?
Damn it! I swore I wasn't gonna cry [nonchalantly wipes tear away] - Jessica, Thank you for reminding me that I shouldn't shun those aspects of myself that I wish I didn't have; but rather, I should accept and embrace them! <3
Hi Jessica. I was watching and crying in the same time. My daughter has ADHD and she is suffering everyday in school from the teachers and the friends. I hope to find any resources that help her to be engaged in the society. My daughter is so intelligent and very sensitive but till now she couldn't find someone to help her in the right way.
Thank you so much for your video.
Love you Jessica 🌹❤
Hi, I am 35 and I just discovered that I have ADHD. I always knew there was something wrong with me and suffered with low self esteem. I always thought I was a failure in life and even now knowing what was wrong with me, sometimes I still feel that way. I started a business. It was very successful for the first two years and then it started to fall apart. I went into deep depression and not long after that I went for theropy. That is when I now discovered what is wrong with me. I feel relieved now knowing and that something can be done. I am still struggling. I have only discovered that I have ADHD 4 months ago. Knowing I have it does change things but it is not enough. I am on trial with Conserta and I find that to is also helping but it is also not enough because I still see that there is a huge strain in my marriage. Before I loose what is most important to me, please can I get help. I think joining these chat groups might help me. Where do I start looking for these chat groups? Thanks
As a mum to a beautiful young lady with diagnosed ADHD, I want to thank you Jessica for such a beautifully articulated and genuine account of living with this type of brain. I experienced a cocktail of feelings while watching you speak...guilt, sadness, and regret for all the times I reverted to the cranky-pants parent who couldn’t make any sense of why my super smart and sassy daughter was failing school, missing appointments, missing the bus, losing friends and generally just disconnecting from life. But I also felt relief and hope through hearing you speak of how you have moved forward and embraced your diagnosis...seeing it finally as your strength rather than your deficit. It is really hard to see your beautiful child struggle so much when you know they are trying to just get out the door each day. Thank you for being a positive voice, a helpful and insightful voice, a voice for change. And thank you for “How to ADHD”. You’re a gem❤️
Eu sigo o canal desta moça é muito inteligente e tem muita informação sobre tdha n só como uma pessoa q pesquisa sobre isso e como portadora disso teve uns vídeos dela q eu quase cheguei a chorar pois eu endendo oq ela sente pois eu também tenho TDHA o canal dela é ótimo tanto pra quem tem TDHA tanto pra quem n tem e quer saber mais sobre esta condição e eu amo a voz dela n sei o pq vale muito a pena ver o canal dela ele é rico em informações sobre TDHA
I’m sure you’ve heard this a thousand times over but your story sounds like a carbon copy of me . Third grade I was testing for ELP (gifted classes) , by middle school had difficulty staying on top of grades , by high school it was game over . Been through a ton of jobs , on my second marriage, and only recently started meds for ADHD in my mid 30’s . Since starting them I’ve been able to finally focus on what I’ve always wanted to do . I just wonder where I would be if I would’ve actually started treatment 20 years ago especially compared to the progress I’ve made in the past two years taking medications. Great video !
Very well done! I enjoyed your show! I didn't know I had ADHD until i was about 48yo. My boy, who has severe combined ADHD, helped me realize that I had it. Once I understood it, i understood my life prior to knowing. I don't see ADHD as a disability, i see it as a benefit because we can do so many things the normals can't.
I think i have got ADD, When I Am trying to do something which I Am not really familiar with, I just can’t focus, even if I will start to do task, my concentration lasts for like few minutes, only thing which forces me to do my task is deadline, nothing else. I can try hard AF but mostly without results. I remember that I was struggling with this disease from my childhood till nowadays and it’s not easy for me.....and yeah it’s like you are thinking about hundreds of thoughts in same time and sometimes you can barely choose what is more or less important for you..you are reading something more sophisticated and after few sentences you just get lost...you can’t repeat what you did read because you just can’t remember that in so short while...you have to read it several times and deeply focus on that...and also lots of stuff you are doing by intuition and not by some advice or so...what’s the best thing for taking care about all of this please? I heard that making a schedule is great...
This is really helpful to me just now. I’ve been getting more and more frustrated as I like you have been struggling to succeed at work despite my best efforts and potential. Am currently in a stockroom job but was on the sales floor of the same store selling Whisky (Scotch) for 1yr + which I loved doing. This has been my longest paid role to date and it kept going, there were issues raised concerning how I engaged with customers. It was recognised I had great knowledge but the delivery of the rapport seemed to be inconsistent. There had been observations around lack of eye contact or walking away from customers at the wrong moment rather than patiently following through the sale. Despite this I was often meeting targets after my probation period but was down to start with. More noticeably at present I’ve been struggling to fill what I’ve needed to during my shift. My boss has been puzzled by this as he going on what autism effects are (which I also have a mild form of which is a named condition called receptive language disorder.)
I looked up medical notes from recent years which highlighted that I also ADHD which makes sense though these days I’m not hyperactive. I know what I need to achieve in most jobs and with the right tools I believe I can. Have studied numerous qualifications. I’m now realising that the ADD seems is effecting me more frequently. It’s likes there’s waves in my brain and I find myself stopping on the spot, and it takes lots of effort to load a box or trolley and have been having blackouts though I’ve been tested for epilepsy and it’s not been that. I know where things are but there’s still part of my brain that blanks out. When I drink energy drinks however, I completed my replenishment list and a large pile of filing at a charity job, around my work I’m also studying bookkeeping where I can hone in on set core skills. Socially I am liked and engage with the network of people and friends around me, but sometimes have been misread as being ‘arrogant’ or have elevated confidence. This has most likely been because I’ve had to work harder to achieve goals and get frustrated at the continued walls of inconsistency and side tracking. It felt ironic and counter intuitive but I’ve had to accept and tell people about my conditions upfront. Right now I’m waiting on a referral diagnosis coming through and have also more anxiety surfacing. Will be sure to read the books you referred to. Have fought for a future since birth, and am not giving up now.
Are you still taking medication? If so are you aware of any studies of long term health effects of being on medication? I was on medicine adderall for 6 years and went off it because concerns about long term health effects. I am thinking about starting up medication again just looking for some help / advice about this. Thank you for your videos and your concern about educating others.
I always explain ADHD to people by telling them, its like swimming in the sea and trying to reach the shore, but all the time a wave just overwhelmes you and you forget what the exact goal was. Some people only see ADHD people like very outgoing loud people ( even my mom). This totally explains my life and it really gives me a positive idea about our future. Thank you so much for the upload.
Just thank you. When I took meds for the first time, I actually just... did the dishes. Beginning to end. Without amping myself with caffeine for motivation, without an impending visitor, without multiple interruptions when my brain decided dishes were boring. I just... did the dishes. Hilarious to me how amazing I found this experience to be. My coping skills helped me until I reached a level in my career where they just weren't enough. I am recovering from feeling like a failure and I thank you for the reminders about who I am. I am powering on, but every day I have to talk myself out of my belief that I am failing at normal. Thank you for wisdom and bravery and heart.
Thank you for this! I've struggled for a long time with these symptoms but I never figured I had adhd. I just thought I wasn't good enough or smart enough. I let others label me for myself, telling me Im lazy and that Im just not trying hard enough. But they can not comprehend what I struggle with, i want to do good and be good and get all my work done but its too difficult for me to stay focused. I forget things all the time and its so embarrassing, I feel guilty at times because I just can't be "normal." So Thank you for this message I really needed to hear this, and I wish to connect with others who suffer from this so that I can educate myself more and learn how to deal with my adhd.
I stumbled across this video while procrastinating writing my lab report. I literally sat down to write it at 9 in the morning, and it is now 6 pm, and I still haven't started (it's due tomorrow). If I wasn't going to write the lab report, I could have at least had fun or done something else. Instead, I wasted my whole day sitting around saying, "I'll get started in a couple minutes." I'm a straight A student who obviously cares a lot about my grades, but I literally just can't make myself get started. When my brain refuses to focus, I end up spending all of my time and energy getting nothing done, which is so frustrating. It takes so much effort just to keep up with life. When my brain decides to hyperfixate on something, there is nothing I can do to stop it lol. My focus is usually all or nothing.
I wake up in the morning, go to my iPhone notes and Read my daily, weekly and monthly to do list. I feel like I do in a day what I would normally do in a week. Best thing ever. Sad I couldn’t figure this out earlier in life. Probably would’ve became a billionaire by now. Better later then never. WRITE YOUR TO DO LIST!!!
This just changed my life. I've been struggling with this for years, yet I never fully accepted that I had ADHD because I was always able to pull through with whatever I had to do at the last moment... Until, I wasn't able to anymore. I've never had a clue about what I wanted to do with my life, I'm literally late for EVERYTHING, schedules and deadlines are my nemesis, and I always feel overwhelmed and ashamed because it is clearly, MY FAULT. But I'm finally realizing that it's not my fault, and I need to learn more about how my brain works. Happiness feels possible... And that's not something that I ever thought was possible.THANK YOU DOING THIS PRESENTATION!!
Every one of these stories where the person goes "my mom was concerned so she took me to the doctor" i just break down. Because my parents don't believe in any of it and they never got help for me, they just screamed and yelled. I'm 22 and now all they do is nag me to get counselling but they don't believe in mental illness, just that I was broken and need to be fixed. But i can't answer phonecalls therefore can't make it to the doctor. I'm falling behind more and more every day.
I've ADHD. I made it to family physician residency. Today was my first day assisting in operating room in general surgery as part of my training and I failed miserably. I almost poked my attending, I had to re-scrub twice as I spaced out and touched my mask, I got laughed at by the nurses and all the medical staff rolled their eyes on me.
I was devastated and your last line in the video saved me.
I literally cried because it was like she was telling my own story, just more into the future. Hearing that maybe there's a chance of success for me gave me some hope. Thank you so much, this honestly 100% changed my life. I cannot thank you enough.
I’ve been watching videos about ADHD for a while and your speech really touched something in me. By hearing your and other people experiences and struggles I can relate so much. I decided that I’m going to the doctor as soon as I can to check, it’s better to be late than sorry! haha
I don’t know if I have it but your speech made me feel empowered anyways, so thank you.
I have not been able to put all those words together that describe me, about me, my entire life. To feel relief, if even for a moment, you know to feel understood, to lift the fog instantaneously-all at once. thank you.
Thank you so so so so so muchhhhh.. by the end of your speech i'm just crying my eyes out.. it's so comforting that someone understands and isn't telling that i have to be like everyone else when i've tried and failed so many times. It's so good to hear that i have hope to succeed as myself. Thank you so much again.. I will learn to understand myself rather than force myself to be like others when i really can't. Thank you!
i got tears in my eyes watching this video, im from germany, ive adhd and it affects my life very much... sometimes i even feel, i would be better off ending it all, just plain quick suicide and forget about my existence. But im afraid i could miss the point in my life where it gets better and i manage to do it, and thats why ive to keep trying.
The love of my life has ADHD.... I love him so much. He often tells me hes jealous of how much I fit in with society and can manage certain things. I didnt understand why people misunderstood him so much and why he was considered a sort of outcast. Hes so sweet and funny, smart and brings a different light into my life. I also misunderstood why he would forget my birthday, do things that were out of character and couldnt seem to hold a job. I am doing my research so I can love him unconditionally and show him that even though everyone else may give up....I never want to...I want to show him what a beautiful soul he is and that he deserves all the love and recognition for all of the things he does right. I want to celebrate all that he is and will be....without your channel and this talk... I wouldn't know how to go about certain aspects of our loves together but now...I can. Thank you!!
ADHD is a real struggle for many. For some, they turn it into a massive gift. Sadly, because of little guidance, it can take decades to transform this into said gift.
I was diagnosed in the mid 70s; First as "hyperactive", then "ADD", then "ADHD". Honestly, it felt to my child mind that they were making it up as they went along. Looking back, I understand that it was just that few truly understood the problem.
I'm sure it didn't help that despite my commanding grasp of language and communication, even if how I would try to describe my feelings and emotions would sound well thought out and accurate, I honestly didn't know what I was describing.
My current therapist and I are not sure where I belong these days. Because I also struggle with constant anxiety issues; It seems I'm either "severely ADHD" or "mildly autistic".
My experience with stimulant treatment feels unfair. Under it's effects, it's like a fog has been lifted from my mind and I can focus on multiple things at once with almost perfect clarity. However, stimulants turn up the volume on my anxiety.
So, I get to clearly understand and contemplate myself while blowing my stack and having a complete meltdown. Meh.
Over the years, the most effective method I've found is diet control. There are MANY preservatives or combinations of food additives that trigger my hyperactivity and scatter my ability to focus. For example; Sugars combined with monosodium glutamate can ruin my whole day. Red lake #40 is a real monster for me to wrestle.
Anyway, I'm digressing all over the place. My apologies.
In closing, I've always very much disliked the line, "It's like someone keeps changing the channel on the TV" (It was on a national commercial for a medication in the late 80s or early 90s, making it a common utterance) because that one doesn't fit me, at all. For me, it's more like, "I'm trying to watch an entire bank of monitors at the same time." Of course, now I'm starting to understand that a LOT of my issues aren't the ADHD, but the sensory overload issues. Never discount that a person might be dealing with more than a single issue, but might have overlapping issues that can be at odds with each other.
thank you for doing this, adhd and 35 and just kinda feeling so...lost? My relationships always explode (my marriage currently is on the rocks as we speak), I always excel at work and then...somehow it doesnt work out. And so much of what you're saying ("So much potential!") is resonating with me. I'm eating up your youtube as we speak as I really appreciate knowing what's going on with me and hopefully, what I can do to create more 'stability' (whatever that is, haha) in my life!Thank you for doing what you're doing!
It's a normal but it's even normal become crazy when your parent were present yourself as a crazy guy, with a umiliations for your normal unsuccess.... Become they said that you're a mental handicapped. But normally in this cases, there's no responsibility if the parents are ignotants and mediocre people. There's no guilty of s their problems becomes from a their deep sofference caused by their families......
It feels like being trapped in a cage in the kingdom of heaven and all its glory. My mind is brilliant, I have felt astonishment on many occasions for what I have been able to learn and apply to diverse and seemingly unrelated academic topics. I am often filled with awe and fascination, and yet I have no way of articulating these concepts and sharing it with anyone other than myself. Aside from the unsettling isolation that this brings, the people in my life typically only see a dysfunctional, neurotic, and unproductive member of society that I outwardly exude. I have quite a few coworkers from previous jobs that considered me to be a clueless moron, always late... making mistakes, inconsistent moods, and generally speaking... the weird girl. It feels like I'm trying harder than everyone around me, but I can never catch up. Sometimes I find myself gazing at the general manager at the bar I work at and wonder what she does that I simply can't... She's an excellent bartender, never makes mistakes, she comes to work every day with the same mood, personality, and work ethic. Sometimes when I'm trying to go to bed late at night, I have to force myself not to imagine the kinds of thoughts she must think about me because it causes me so much shame and discomfort. My brilliance is a burden and doesn't provide me with a key to any doorway in my life, it has only given me loneliness and dissatisfaction. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have the option to flip a switch, to take away my brilliant mind just so that I could be good at life and have people think that I'm smart... I'm still not sure what I would choose.
I have been revisiting the negative side of this disorder with the love of my life for 20 years. I had come to the conclusion that she is better w/o me and that I was broken or wired differently. thanks so much for your point of view, ADHD point of view. I will seek a physician by the end of the moth and try the medication less reluctant than before. I owe her so much for her flex, stamina, and consideration, its the least I could do, and I'm dying to see the world for the first time. Thx for your talk, you are amazing, congratulations and best of it all
I just stumbled on this through remind (company). Inattention, distraction and sometimes hyperactive are true portrayal of my persona. I have been online for months researching this deficiency but the results I got didn't define me truly. Thanks Jessica. I will keep a close tab to your channel while researching more on ADHA. With love from Nigeria.
17 years old struggling in school recently got diagnosed with A.D.H.D. Its more depressing for me as i have been tested to have genius level iq but a poor working memory and thats the reason why they were unable to diagnosed me when i was a child but as i grow up the symptoms become more obvious.
Until today I was not aware what ADHD is, but after today I think I also might have ADD.
It's feels like how much ever hardwork you put is not good enough, the feeling being incapable haunts me every time I put effort in my work.
When compared to others I got negative results then the effort they put it.
Certainly it feels better to know I am not alone.
This video has given me some hope, I do way to bounce back to glory.
How to ADHD keep supporting our tribe.
My six year old daughter sounds a lot like how you described yourself as a child. As a mom I can sense she needs so much from me, but I feel lost as to how to help her most of the time. If you could go back in time and give your parents any advice about how to raise you as an ADHD child, what would you tell them?
Wow, "ADHD is not just inattention"! Yes! I've been diagnosed since third grade, and I didn't realize it was more than inattention until I took 'Abnormal Psych' at University! I never took stimulants bc my family has a history of addiction. But it's getting more and more difficult to function with ADHD since University. I'm about to go follow your channel, because this is the first thing I've seen that even looks useful. Thanks so much for doing this TED talk!!
We just found out my 5 year old son has ADHD yesterday. We love his beautiful brain and our family has embraced his uniqueness even before this diagnosis. Now in the second semester of Kindergarten and realizing his ability to focus and learn even though he is so very smart is what prompted the doctor visit. We start his medication tomorrow and I'm praying it will help him focus and retain what he is being taught but at the same time I don't want to loose my wonderful, zany, audacious son. Thanks for helping me understand him better!
Antidepressants are medications that can help relieve symptoms of depression, social anxiety disorder, anxiety disorders, seasonal affective disorder, and dysthymia, or mild chronic depression, as well as other conditions.
They aim to correct chemical imbalances of neurotransmitters in the brain that are believed to be responsible for changes in mood and behavior.
Depression Medications (Antidepressants)
These are the most commonly prescribed type of antidepressant.
Serotonin and noradrenaline reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs) are used to treat major depression, mood disorders, and possibly but less commonly attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), anxiety disorders, menopausal symptoms, fibromyalgia, and chronic neuropathic pain.
SNRIs raise levels of serotonin and norepinephrine, two neurotransmitters in the brain that play a key role in stabilizing mood.
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are the most commonly prescribed antidepressants. They are effective in treating depression, and they have fewer side effects than the other antidepressants.
SSRIs block the reuptake, or absorption, of serotonin in the brain. This makes it easier for the brain cells to receive and send messages, resulting in better and more stable moods.
They are called "selective" because they mainly seem to affect serotonin, and not the other neurotransmitters.