original source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nb5cBkbQpGY
Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan B. Peterson explains what happens to a social anxious person internally in a social situation. Don't tell them to stop worrying about it', because that never works. A much more effective way is to make eye contact with people.
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His mentally challenged, useful idiot followers always say "that's not what he meant". Stupid fucks. It's astonishing how dumb people are.
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I've come to a point where I realize I don't socialize on occasions not because I'm the one who is awkward but because INSTITUTIONS force us to socialize (school, work, etc). In other words, I'm not interested in being forced to socialize, so I don't. But when institutions force you to socialize when you aren't interested and then shame you for when you don't they instil in people "you are wrong for not wanting to socialize; a loner; shy, etc".
It's not to say I don't have the compacity to find others interesting or enjoyable, but don't force me, and even worse, don't tell me I'm wrong when forcing me and I don't comply out of lack of interest. Let me make my own decisions, and as proved to myself over and over and over, I will socialize supremely when I'm genuinely interested in doing so.
wtfff.... for years I have been wondering why I am scared of eye contact. This morning I found a piece of the puzzle. I don't feel safe. I am scared. You explain this so effortlessly... Thank you!
Anyone know where to look next to know how to fix this without people thinking I am weird?
but when you look at other ppl you are self conscious you might look for too long and it will turn into a stare....and ppl may even ask "why you looking at me like that?"...now thats a dead give away you are doing it wrong lol. so self conscious ppl are mechanical to some degree, like robots....also..if someone says "dont look at some for more than 1.5 seconds..."..thats not gonna help...cos you cant start a stopwatch and time it can u? its a fine line
Wow, I'm going to try some of this. My social anxiety manifests itself in sweating and is pretty erratic. Sometimes I'm ok; I can let a quiet place (a pub for example) get busy as the night goes on and I'm fine. But I'm almost crippled if I walk into the same place and it is already busy. I'm also not too good at eating with my back to people - strangers mostly - in restaurants. I'm normally fine after about ten minutes, when I've settled down into the social situation. It's very rare that I have to get the hell out of somewhere, and I've gotten much better since I addressed my diet and started exercising. I think this gave me more confidence in a social setting. Thanks for listening!
As soon as I clicked this video I got an ad saying "you can watch as many videos about overcoming social anxiety as you want and it's still not going to help you overcome social anxiety" 😂 the YT overlords are watching me 😶🔍.
Shouldn't these guys be studying law or something to get a job at the end.. I mean a career.. So that's university nowadays.. I tend to think if you can't make proper studies just don't make any.. Be a good cook, or a good mechanic.. A good nurse.. What are they studying litterature and psychology for.. Less than 1% of them are gonna be professors, the rest are gonna be rejected by the system.. Mothers at home if they make a good marriage.. If these girls would be studying to be nurses close to 90% of them would get a career.
i used too have real bad social anxiety like too the point where restraunts would be a problem, then I started working out and giving myself goals and becuase of that my confidence has skyrocketted i honestly think confidence is the key too overcoming anything.
A few times a person commented that I'm so quiet in class. That was in college.
WHY THE HELL DO PEOPLE DO THAT?! IT'S EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE AND MAKES ME FEEL ALIEN OR SOMETHING OR SOME SHIT IDK.
And this one girl says that I talk a lot which is stupid since I don't, I just had a lot of things to say at that time about whatever it was.
Did she just tell me to shut up? Did I do something wrong?? I don't understand this at all.
I hate when people do stuff like that, pointing out that you're so quiet, infront of everyone else. Do they want to make an issue out of it? Do they think they're helping?
It's already obvious enough without them pointing it out. Nothing good comes from it, it just draws even more attention to you while you blabber something incoherently about how it had always been that way, or that's just how you function.
Fucking demons out there. I swear next time I'll snap at them, 'What's it to you?', cause I'd really like to know.
That’s not how I thought social anxiety worked. If the fear of being judged was the issue, everyone would be socially anxious. The problem is a low self esteem, which makes you transfer the thought that you suck into what you think everyone thinks of you. This results in you thinking everyone is negatively judging you. Realize this and ask yourself why do I think everyone will judge me. Do I actually physically suck so much that everyone will hate me? The answer is no. You think you suck but as a human being you don’t. Just think about it, when have you actually been judged like you judge yourself in your own head? All healthy humans are likable one way or another. I’m no expert though, I only speak from experience and the method I used to overcome anxiety.
I’ve tried this shit and I ended up looking crazy! Whenever I would feel or think that I’m being judged by someone around me I would look into their eyes and just see this wtf face, and my thoughts would get in the way of me understanding what their thinking thru their eyes. And I would get just more awkward and embarrassed bc of all the wtf faces I was getting, I would think this person is looking st me thru the side of my eyes and look and they would look away then I would feel it again and look and they would get creeped out I would still look their way and into their eyes, this MADE IT WAY WORSE DR PETERSON WTFFFFFFF
What he said about the eye is very true I feel like my eyes are not paying any attention and just go blank when I think back to the situation and ask myself "what were my eyes doing?" , why ?
Because its hard to do, fear is involved, unrealistic future events playing in my head, if i do get the information, but certainly its possible,and a realistic advice, thanks.
This is awesome and I have no negative input on at all . It’s also a strong and aggressive way of dealing with your SA. But like he said it’s rough and life is rough. JP THANK YOU . And to whom ever is reading this I highly recommended you go and listen to a Guy named “Dr. Kamil Atta “ YouTube videos. He’s is spot on with the understanding of SA. And he’s pretty straightforward. IM NOT SAYING JP isn’t . I’m just simply giving out options to whom ever suffer from the mental illness of social anxiety. P.snSincerely conscious.
Wow, I'm going to try this in my next presentation. I've been having a lot of difficulty speaking because I get distracted by nerves and I feel like this will help. I'm thinking back and I feel least nervous when someone asks me a question and I'm directly speaking to them. I'm going into accounting and I want to be able to public speak for work and socially as an adult. I want to be able to speak at weddings, funerals, birthdays and parties. I'm actually excited to try this out and practice it over the next year at college and I usually dread presentations.
I wish I saw this before my speech class. Jesus that class was bad! Never been in more stress in my life. I just want to die when my name gets called, I live in slow motion until I get to the podium. By the time I'm ready to speak my face is glazed with sweat, everyone can see I'm struggling. My hands visibly shake, so I hide them behind the podium. Truth is I'm a good speaker, I articulate, I'm concise and intelligent when I do so. My speeches are well written, jokes infused, I stay on point. But the act of speaking in public makes me want to do literally anything else, no matter how terrible. Getting hit by a car for instance, at the time I would have much preferred temporary pain to the level of discomfort I was in. My friends before the speech became my judgmental enemies during the speech, then after - no matter how bad it goes, we high five and I sit back down. Heart racing 180 bpm as if I just ran a mile full sprint. For 10 minutes my entire perspective changed, and then as soon as the eyes are off of me, I'm back to normal.
I’m a practicing counsellor and I have really bad social anxiety. Crazy as it seems I do. That initial first client meeting I suffer really bad physiological symptoms that are totally uncontrollable. Racing heart, shaky voice and tremble uncontrollably. Once I get into it I’m fine, but it’s the most awful feeling in the world. It’s almost like I leave my body. I’m using mindfulness techniques to help me combat my anxiety and doing lots of reading. I don’t have a large circle of friends and don’t really like socialising. I’m aware this is unhelpful and I understand why I don’t socialise, I just wish the symptoms will subside.
Take it further.
Identify the retards showing off and smile while giving them a wide birth, stand next to a shy person and help them relax.
I was not the toughest lad in town back in the day so found huge social anxiety at a teenage party or two and eventually decided parties are not for me. I look back and have an uncanny memory of sitting on a sofa drunk as a skunk with around 8 girls whom were - like myself - more thoughtful and academic, and pretty, aiming for me because of great social skills around women, politeness and gentility, with the balls to stand up verbally for myself. I actually had the moment I thought was reserved for Mr Awesome...
I had no idea at 16 how many of my female classmates were trying to catch my eye, because I was too busy criticising myself for not being the tough guy around the foolish lads. Why? I wasn't a lad, I'd grown up in a female dominated household with a deceased father - I was leagues ahead of the lads...and I suppose my family and future were the things I was focussed on.
I could regret it, however, life is strange and I have travelled far and wide over 30 years, seen a family torn asunder and thereafter healed. I am in a situation (job relationship income location lifestyle) I truly enjoy, one which those classmates would not be able to handle, so no regrets I was too naive to notice young ladies paying me attention and awaiting my approach. Like the great Lao Tse says...tune in to your life's flow, it knows where it is going anyways.
Parties are usually dominated by a couple of sociopaths vying for attention because they are needy but good at faking confidence. We are all the same inside with worries about ourselves. learn to focus early, shut out the haters and naysayers and go for your intuitive goals. Shed the retards, only then can the valuable souls find you.
As it happens I think I threw the best party for my peers, my family were moving house so my schoolmates had free reign over the whole place and I was busily enjoying a party with great alternative music for once, The garden became fashionable garments and I became legendary. As usual once I had succeeded in a the challenge of socialising I scarpered. The rest is a story of itchy feet and neurons....
Professor Peterson has enabled me to review a life and deem it well spent, for this I owe him a debt of reputation, he has a message which could oust the idiocy from western culture - spread it far spread it wide.
I lecture in language and culture. To the future I urge that you retain the values of your culture and judge the new as harshly as you can, for it is greatly marketed, rather cheap and false. I pity the youth growing up in the Americas, for it's culture is truly faked. Like The prof suggests, selective reading around existential problems will help you to decide upon the right path for yourself. Good luck and value the earth above all other things. Namaste.
So what happens when you stare at the monster and it licks its lips? I look at people and they look baffled and confused, repulsed and disgusted. What's the solution to being unlikable when you're being yourself.
This might be weird but this is like my 10th time watching this particular video (or listening to the audio, I downloaded the mp3 as well). Every time I feel that social anxiety creeping back in, I try to remember why I need to keep looking, not to look away. I already knew this stuff logically and objectively speaking. This isn't anything new. But you need someone to keep reminding you of this because the brain is not inherently logical when it comes to self perception. Most of the time it tends towards negative conclusions in the face of the unknown. "I don't know the meaning of this reaction, that must mean it's [insert negative interpretation]." So I need to keep reminding myself of the things he talks about in this video. It also helps that his presentation is really powerful, which is great for motivation. I wrote little keywords that I linked in my mind with the content of this particular clip as labels for my alarms. So that when I wake up in the morning, I remember to ignore my brain's default mode of operation in social situations, and start learning the new one, just as I'm starting the day. My social anxiety is horrible for someone in their early twenties. That is about to change, I hope. It's way past time for that.
0:33 but that is faun response taken as a binary & you extensively 'unpack' ideas based on this too much imo-/// fear of the dragon could cause fight, fright (faun) or flight (run) - I assume not turning up to the party is avoidant ? Love this bit of the talk tho it's really interesting.
I needed this. I have a presentation soon and haven't done one in a while. Some people have recommended not looking at anyone and looking at the back wall, but that to me seems insincere and actually distracts me from what I'm saying. I agree with Jordan, I think looking at individuals it's much better. As a positive side effect, it also helps the audience to stay engaged
Hello Jordan, I've been going through depression for the past year and a half or so, and I ended up isolating myself from everybody. I'm now trying to recover but the only thing holding me back is that I'm afraid to ever go to school or parties or family events or any kind of social situation where there are too many people. So I looked up what you might have to say on how to get over that kind of fear. And now I'm gonna go to my university class right now and try and apply it.
I don't know if you're ever going to see this, but I'd just like to thank you very much, (hopefully) you've been a big help.
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