Can you read someone’s mind by looking at them? Almost. Lynne Franklin teaches you how to connect with 3 types of people by understanding how their bodies communicate. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want. In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want.
In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
Her categorization is too broad, and not really backed up by science. Also physical features are usually inherited and don't have a lot to do with personality. You can also be a mix of these categorizations or maybe something else completely different. She wasn't convincing to me at all.
I’m none of these people. Eye contact makes me extremely uncomfortable but I’m definitely not a listener either, I talk more about myself then listen and seem to daydream when people talk to me. I’m 100% not a toucher bc I’m uncomfortable touching people or people touching me nor do I have thin lips lol. I don’t dress comfortable either I wear a girdle to make me look skinny and spend 45mins putting makeup on. I remember things based on my emotion that day but my description doesn’t match the toucher at all.
I am curious if there have been studies on whether mental health affects a persons body language? I have met people who follow the traits of listeners but when asked about the way they think, they follow the traits of a looker. I started to wonder if people with mental health issues like anxiety and depression can give the body language of a listener from the constructed fear inside their minds even though they are in fact lookers. Does B(mental health) affect A(body language)?
i think like a movie but i can't hear myself when i am thinking of the movie. and when i want to describe it to other peole i don't know what i should say so they undersand me. what do i do? why i dont know what i want to say is because it hurts on my brain.
and it happens right now
This is so inaccurate in so many ways I don't even know where to begin. Information portrayed as fact with no reference or real demonstration. If it is as easy as portrayed you would not need models. Human communication is way more complicated than this. Figures are inaccurate. Do your own research.
I change how I think depending on the situation. If I need to remember something someone said I will dig for it in my memory. If I need to remember something visual I will dig for visual memory. I can also remember things as if I were watching a movie. If I need to listen I will listen very patiently and I am known to stair into a person's eyes and at their hands and feet. I use to be a touchy type but I learned some people are uncomfortable with that. I learned to give people a foot of space between them and I. I also like to use my feelings in certain situations, like with my boyfriend I am madly in love with him. I can't hide that. I am a very smart person so that is why I am able to adapt to situations like I do. I do not communicate for myself I am always wanting to adapt to the person I am with or person's. I think it's my responsibility to show respect for others because I understand the situation like I do. I am also able to read what people are thinking because I am always paying attention to their body language and verbal. If you understand why someone would move the way they do, you too could learn how to read minds. We are our thoughts, so what we think we reflect through our body language and our bodies respond to the environment too. I actually started out as a none verbal communicator. I had to learn how to speak and communicate like everyone else does. I am an autistic so I will never be able to think like everyone else does. My brain is weird differently.
Is there such a thing as someone who functions in all three ways? In recalling memories it really depends on what strikes me first. Sometimes its the warmth of the phone on my ear or softness of someone's touch, sometimes its the tone and tamber of someone's voice other times I see things like a movie. I dress for comfort and style but half the time I don't really care. I vary when it comes to eye contact and touch. Sometimes I'm very touchy, sometimes I'm make great eye contact, sometimes I make very little eye contact, sometimes I prefer not to touch or be touched. No clue what I am 😂
I've also found its always been easy for me to connect with everybody very often turning enemies into friends. Perhaps I'm a chameleon of sorts and match those around me. I'm definitely capable of thinking all three ways and use it to my full advantage even if I never realized it. In terms of which is dominate...its either visual or audio. In remembering movies I often remember sounds best, personal memories that are fresh play like movies but old memories or dreams are felt rather than seen or heard.
I don't know. I think this is a bit simplistic. As a writer, I have to be aware of not only how characters, or places look, but the sounds, and the feelings those sounds and looks elicit. I learn best when I can combine the listening, with visual and hands on. It really depends upon the situation, though, as someone with Anxiety, and adhd, it's hard to concentrate on anything, especially if there are sounds, and sights, smells, that overwhelm the process that folks without, don't have to worry about. I just. Don't adhere to this simplistic narrative.
isnt this something that is subject to change through life experience?
is she saying that people are born 1 of these 3 certain ways and thats that?
People go through alot in life and i feel like their body language and micro expressions would change based on experiences..
anyone who reads this is invited to share your thoughts
This is goofy, "you can read someone's mind." Sure maybe you can tell how people learn through there actions. but it seems rather silly to say "if you hold stress in your shoulders you remember things visually." Honestly it seems like she is just playing off of the ignorance of people, making them think this is a way to stereotype how people think so you can understand them more. If any of this is true I would love to have a link to your study's. I would love to read the reports on how they determined these factors in different ways of behaving and how they got the statistics that you used so religiously. It sounds like a BuzzFeed article taken to the extreme. It also helps none that you got a bunch of people to act out this. Makes everything more unreliable, if you would have pulled from the audience and using your methods of diagnosis to figure out how they think. Then maybe you can see that your stereotypes are not as correct and widely applicable as you make it seem. I think this whole segment was a big joke, much much like the cheesy acting and cringe worthy stage presence this show had. Poorly made, poorly executed bad on you TEDX.
So I thought I was a listener but then I also related to a toucher. When I remembered it, I remembered how I felt physically and emotionally, the sounds I heard, and what everything looked like around me somewhat like a movie and somewhat not. I have one thin lip and one full lip so that didn’t even help haha. I dress for both style and comfort as well as functionality. I am very touchy feely but also listen in depth to everything around me. Am I a middle person?
A variable to consider when analyzing your communication style is if you have adapted to communicate with other communication styles, for example, in my case, I am a visual and most of the people I interact with are touchers so I adapted my communication language to use phrases such as "How do you feel about this?," "Tell me what you feel..."
If you are trying to find your communication style keep this in mind.
That test to figure out which one I am didn’t work, when I closed my eyes a bunch of memories came up like a montage but I couldn’t focus to see what they were because I was trying to listen her at the same time; however all the memories that did come up gave me the same feeling. So what type am I?
Except I do all three descriptive formats.
I hold my head level.
I don’t touch unless coerced.
I don’t have full lips... the list goes on and on. This is just a guessing game. Instead of pretending she has everyone nailed down. How about we just understand that no everyone thinks and says things how we do and move on.
She seems to be an external controller i.e. telling others how things are and how to assess and deal with things according to her expertise/authority. She seems to be trying to ‘push’ her point of view, perhaps without realising how true and real things when pointed out to people, show themselves for what they are without any need to make it appear or become knowledge in their heads. How conscious of this is she? Consider it for yourself, does she ask people to look into this for themselves or does she proclaim it? Everyone can be all of these things she is talking of at once. It is important to see people as they are, without filtering preconceptions, but with a view to a full and balanced objectivity. She seems to be playing the role of the educator/expert and I wonder just how conscious she is of characters and roles overlaying our sensible reasonable nature? Here is something I wrote earlier today ...
_The nature of temperature is known by comparison of hot to cold. Similarly things cannot be seen without contrast, without difference and the differences are the characteristics of the thing. A big man, a strong man, a nimble man, a dim whit or bright spark are examples of differences by which we know people. We know things by their defining characteristics, without knowledge of these characteristics and how they vary, it is impossible to know things? If you don’t know the defining characteristics of people then it is impossible to know them for what they are, without full knowledge certain things are not looked for to guide our interactions._
_Any rule that that even hints of not seeing and treating things for what they truly are is leaving things open to seeing and treating them as other than what they truly are which will always be wrong. What are the human distinctive characteristics that can be seen, heard, experienced, i.e. sensed to distinguish or judge an individual? What makes a trustworthy or lovable person?_
A perceptive person who senses someone using Lynne's techniques on them may see them as not being themselves and hence untrustworthy as a deliberately manipulative person. What is wrong with being your open honest transparent self in any and all communications. Seeking to 'read someone's mind' and use this to get advantage, via superior knowledge of human nature is up to the individual, but the consequences of being seen as a manipulator and treated accordingly, is the risk in the cause and effect nature of reality.
I’m all three of them.. it’s very possible with different people I say different things so they will understand what I’m saying.. one very important thing about me is that I like to mumble, and people say to me “what did u say?” Or “I can’t hear u, say it again” “Your too quite, I can’t understand you..” I can’t talk very loud and when I do it sounds like I’m yelling.. it’s hard being 12..
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