Lilia Tarawa was brought up in the Gloriavale Christian Community on the West Coast of the South Island of New Zealand, where she was constantly surrounded by everyone she loved. But over time, she began to see the dark side of her community, and ultimately realised that she had to get out. In this raw and emotional talk, Lilia shares the reality of life in a cult, and her heart-wrenching journey to break free.
Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
Unfortunately, I've gone thru something similar; to this day, I remember those moments with pain. It's taken a lifetime of thought, reasoning......to combat the feelings that were produced. While I look back and can understand what led everyone to those behaviors - it still creates a divide. Words need to be watched. Children can be impacted so quickly.
I will be very honest. I think that she grew up in an environment where hate, lies, violence and corruption was covered up, so when it happened she was oversensitive to the whole experience. My dad raised me with a good balance of occasional beatings, love and a clear demonstration of how wrong can be right and how right can be wrong in the right situation. For me, her whole story is what would normally happen in a person's lifetime anywhere ranging from the army to your high school group. You will get confrontation, deception, violence, unfairness and thats just the tip of the iceberg. Life is filled with bad things, but its our ability to deal with them that makes us who we are and how well we perform in it. My biggest concern with cults is that they desensitize you and unprepare you for real life where its not all a bed of roses, so by the time you reach adulthood you are a half person missing valuable social and survival skills. Just as much as I wouldn't raise a wolf in a zoo and release it back into the wild. You can clearly tell that her mind has been damaged to the point of bipolarity.
What the actually heck?!?! Not want wanting children is a sin??? What if you have a medical disease and would not like to pass it on?!?! So people would have to pass on their diseases so that they wont be a sinner??? Well skrew that! I'd rather not have a child to grow up having type 1 diabetes. Imagine having to use a NEEDLE on yourself 3 times a day. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
This has been on my recommended for so long and I'm confused because I'm Christian n my family is like that...? Like men do the work and women to the house work but I wanna support myself and I'm alsO PAN-
But like I'm starting to think this Christian stuff ain't it chief
How come in other countries they find using belts and violence to punish children is counted as abuse but in my country, it’s discipline. How come, in other countries, humiliation and degradation is emotional abuse but in my country, it’s well-deserved. How come, in other countries, depression is a medical illness but in my country, it’s ungratefulness. It’s unfair.
Wow this is so relatable. I grew up in a community where I was made to feel guilty about everything I did or felt. I was told that women don’t go to university and are supposed to get married and have kids. My mother sacrificed everything she had and endured a life time of abuse so that my sisters and I could live the life she never had. Looking back I’m so resentful that my father wasn’t man enough to stand up for his family but now I’ve realised that only I have control over my life.
Unfortunately, physical and mental abuse, being told you're not good enough and being mislead and lied to isn't exclusive to cults.
Just pick up any magazine, watch any commercial, go to any party, go to any place of employment, etc, etc..., and see and hear time and time again how to be better or good enough, or to feel good about yourself then you must eat this or that, sleep on this, wear that, behave, misbehave, not stand out, stand out. You must be loud, be quiet, be tall, be slim, be blonde, be redheadded, be brunette, be natural, be straight. You need shop here, not there, diet, not diet, live here, not there, this school, not that school... And the list goes on.
Our weakness are exploited, all for the almighty currency of your choice, or for power and prestige, just so you can say 'Im better than you.'
Abuse of people and power, and those creatures and things around us is never ending, and has been with us since humankind existed, so I have no hope for any of us.
Ok, rant over, it's safe to come out now. 😋
So, it’s a crime to do this, in the name of christianity. It’s also a crime to be a christian and not agree with what they did. Obviously what they’re doing is wrong, and it’s even worse because they did it, in the name of christianity. Nobody is denying her experience. What are you trying to accomplish, by attacking christians that would never do this? Y’all need to stop looking for unnecessary arguments because we can’t help people that are going what she went through, if y’all keep choosing to fight the wrong people.
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