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I grew up in a cult. It was heaven -- and hell. | Lilia Tarawa | TEDxChristchurch

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Lilia Tarawa was brought up in the Gloriavale Christian Community on the West Coast of the South Island of New Zealand, where she was constantly surrounded by everyone she loved. But over time, she began to see the dark side of her community, and ultimately realised that she had to get out. In this raw and emotional talk, Lilia shares the reality of life in a cult, and her heart-wrenching journey to break free. Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. Lilia Tarawa is a New Zealand writer, speaker, holistic health consultant and business coach. She is a member of the Māori Ngāi Tahu tribe. Lilia was born into New Zealand's infamous religious cult, Gloriavale, and fled with her eleven family members at eighteen years of age. Her extraordinary life experience compelled her to pursue a career promoting human rights, welfare and empowerment. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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Achu :P (2 часа назад)
Does the cult still exist?
Vocal Neko (4 часа назад)
Aw you poor soul, im not christian, im a ectlectic wiccan but this is saaaddd... σ( ̄、 ̄〃)
Maryam Choudhury (8 часов назад)
Her story telling skills are amazing!!!
H Pyle (9 часов назад)
Unfortunately, I've gone thru something similar; to this day, I remember those moments with pain. It's taken a lifetime of thought, reasoning......to combat the feelings that were produced. While I look back and can understand what led everyone to those behaviors - it still creates a divide. Words need to be watched. Children can be impacted so quickly.
Veni Vidi Amavi (9 часов назад)
*ok YouTube what is up with this * reads comments about how girl can weave a story * ok imma watch it*
Olive Xo (10 часов назад)
she looks a bit like meghan markle especially in the thumbnail
Chani Frost (11 часов назад)
Brave girl!!!
FollowingMyPASSION (11 часов назад)
so every religion has its cult then 😓
• Bella • (12 часов назад)
Her teacher was right ❤️👏
Jenny A- (13 часов назад)
She’s a leader for sure!
madison55 (15 часов назад)
The best TEDX I have ever seen. Good luck to her. I had a boyfriend that got into a cult. His parents got him out of it but, he was not ever the same.
Caitlynn Nicholle (16 часов назад)
I'm reading the Crucible in school right about now, but...this just reminds me of that. With the harsh control religion has and greed.
BabiXMello (16 часов назад)
she's an incredible story teller! a question here, does this cult still exist?
Peter M (16 часов назад)
I will be very honest. I think that she grew up in an environment where hate, lies, violence and corruption was covered up, so when it happened she was oversensitive to the whole experience. My dad raised me with a good balance of occasional beatings, love and a clear demonstration of how wrong can be right and how right can be wrong in the right situation. For me, her whole story is what would normally happen in a person's lifetime anywhere ranging from the army to your high school group. You will get confrontation, deception, violence, unfairness and thats just the tip of the iceberg. Life is filled with bad things, but its our ability to deal with them that makes us who we are and how well we perform in it. My biggest concern with cults is that they desensitize you and unprepare you for real life where its not all a bed of roses, so by the time you reach adulthood you are a half person missing valuable social and survival skills. Just as much as I wouldn't raise a wolf in a zoo and release it back into the wild. You can clearly tell that her mind has been damaged to the point of bipolarity.
Rose Ocean (15 часов назад)
And physically abusing someone is wrong
Rose Ocean (15 часов назад)
Peter M What she experienced was not normal...
yh813 (17 часов назад)
Don't take life for granted. Be thankful that if you were brought up in a wonderful and loving place.
Oof Anchorman (19 часов назад)
Amazing. Oh, my god.
asdfers (20 часов назад)
"Spare the rod, spoil the child." That's the line sadists use to justify their abuse. If only somebody told them it refers to the rod they used to wrap their scrolls around.
marbieee (20 часов назад)
why does she kinda look like safiya nygaard
Quinn Rollen (20 часов назад)
Incredible story
Rosa_thequeen (22 часа назад)
1:41 😂
fatima ihab (22 часа назад)
This is the life of most Arab/Muslims children ( I speak from experience )
xXGalaxyWolfXx (1 день назад)
Anyone here who is actually from New Zealand or is this all Americans
Lilorangy (1 день назад)
Your story brought literal tears to my eyes. You are a survivor, so strong and brilliant.
Pestilence (1 день назад)
DAMN THIS MADE ME CRY
hob (1 день назад)
You're an absolutely brilliant speaker. Thank you for sharing your story, Lilia.
Ayzen (1 день назад)
11:38 What the actually heck?!?! Not want wanting children is a sin??? What if you have a medical disease and would not like to pass it on?!?! So people would have to pass on their diseases so that they wont be a sinner??? Well skrew that! I'd rather not have a child to grow up having type 1 diabetes. Imagine having to use a NEEDLE on yourself 3 times a day. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Shawol In The Shower (1 день назад)
That microphone sensitivity is too high and driving me insane
shakizzle33 (1 день назад)
Thank you so much for telling your story, Lilia
Thatbeach (1 день назад)
This has been on my recommended for so long and I'm confused because I'm Christian n my family is like that...? Like men do the work and women to the house work but I wanna support myself and I'm alsO PAN- But like I'm starting to think this Christian stuff ain't it chief
Bethany Waite (1 день назад)
i cried
Willow Summers (1 день назад)
Hmm. Did she lose her love for God in the process?
Bartlemy (1 день назад)
Beautiful inside and out. What an amazing person
Tinks 64 (1 день назад)
How can anyone thumbs down this video. If someone could explain I would appreciate. How could anyone disagree with what you just heard xo
The Bookshelf (1 день назад)
4.1K dislikes. 4.1K people live in a cult.
Vanessa Brown (1 день назад)
Wow, her story telling is amazing. So horrible she , and many others, have had to go through this.
Rosy67896 AJ (1 день назад)
after being recommended this video for the past 3 months, here i am
Arpit Solanki (1 день назад)
It's worst than prison.Glad she escaped from it.
Kawaii Pencil (1 день назад)
Nice
Quinn Rhowan (1 день назад)
lmao the title made me think this was abt glorifying cults
Victoria Ward (1 день назад)
I thought from the thumbnail it was Safia Nygard
Goebel Anwin (1 день назад)
😭😭😭
alich (1 день назад)
I'm interested but she's too over emotional. I get that you want to sell your story but that that's enough lady.
kucz cheescakes (1 день назад)
i think shes emotional cause it rlly happened to her and left her broken 🤷
Kaepora Gaebora (2 дня назад)
I thought this video would be depressing, but it ends up giving me a feeling of hope.
S Parker (2 дня назад)
You show great qualities of a leader. We need more women like you here.
Mellie Torre (2 дня назад)
Terrible convolution of what Christianity is all about.
Mellie Torre (2 дня назад)
Okay - as a GOOD parent, your child must RESPECT you. The human brain is NOT fully developed until 25. The PROBLEM here is simple common sense. Jesus NEVER condoned the mistreatment of children.
Mellie Torre (2 дня назад)
It can work in SMALL SMALL communities.
Mellie Torre (2 дня назад)
HAD to have some kind of acting training.
smartzstuff (2 дня назад)
Beautiful
Sofía Carolina Elizondo (2 дня назад)
God LOVES YOU! He is so proud of you. I love and admire you girl! keep inspiring
UWUbread ._. (2 дня назад)
She looks like my doctor
Shny (2 дня назад)
I applauded from home
Melancholy Kid (2 дня назад)
That's some BS right there
Kathryn7890 (2 дня назад)
14:21 welp. that was awkward
Sophia Gebert (2 дня назад)
I didn’t grow up in a cult but I sure as heck got beat with a belt. And HECK my parents LOVE me for sure
Suga Is shook (2 дня назад)
She’s so beautiful and her smile omg I love her accent
Suga Is shook (2 дня назад)
Why did youtube want me to watch this so bad
Shit Content (2 дня назад)
I thought she was safiya nygaard in the thumbnail 🙈
johnyrockstar007 (2 дня назад)
This is not for Indians we get beaten for our wrongs. Especially if u r from the southern part. But westerners take it too far. Our dad slaps never punches
lona sushi (2 дня назад)
The way she speak is digusting ....
The Aliyagator (2 дня назад)
How come in other countries they find using belts and violence to punish children is counted as abuse but in my country, it’s discipline. How come, in other countries, humiliation and degradation is emotional abuse but in my country, it’s well-deserved. How come, in other countries, depression is a medical illness but in my country, it’s ungratefulness. It’s unfair.
Rest assured (2 дня назад)
Well I can’t really picture anything since I hAVE APHANTASIA I’m just really sad I found out about this today
J Gildz (3 дня назад)
Wow you are beautiful and your voice, that accent.
Iris (3 дня назад)
Drama shesh
Karina V (3 дня назад)
I thought this was Safiya
anna sorokina (2 дня назад)
Karina V that’s the only reason why I clicked on this video
Norah (3 дня назад)
Wow this is so relatable. I grew up in a community where I was made to feel guilty about everything I did or felt. I was told that women don’t go to university and are supposed to get married and have kids. My mother sacrificed everything she had and endured a life time of abuse so that my sisters and I could live the life she never had. Looking back I’m so resentful that my father wasn’t man enough to stand up for his family but now I’ve realised that only I have control over my life.
TheKrystee (3 дня назад)
Grew up a jehovahs witness.. didn't live on a compound but might as well have. Congratulations to you!!
Anervaria (3 дня назад)
asmr
zoomforlife (3 дня назад)
this female is over dramatic .. god help who ever end up with her
Mary chris Namikazee (3 дня назад)
When she started talking about loving yourself i'm like: You need bangtan?
Caroline Nelson (3 дня назад)
I think she's wearing a prosthetic nose and chin. Look...
jlo803 (3 дня назад)
Doesn't it resemble to Mustang the movie?? How religion degrade and opress women... Deeply sad
tsk (3 дня назад)
“We don’t want women like you.” im glad im not the only one who lost it
T-Bag187 (4 дня назад)
stop fake crying ffs
l v (4 дня назад)
oOF
Marissa Jurado (4 дня назад)
So beautiful. So powerful.
Sung Choi (4 дня назад)
Bts love myself
Yona SD (4 дня назад)
Unfortunately, physical and mental abuse, being told you're not good enough and being mislead and lied to isn't exclusive to cults. Just pick up any magazine, watch any commercial, go to any party, go to any place of employment, etc, etc..., and see and hear time and time again how to be better or good enough, or to feel good about yourself then you must eat this or that, sleep on this, wear that, behave, misbehave, not stand out, stand out. You must be loud, be quiet, be tall, be slim, be blonde, be redheadded, be brunette, be natural, be straight. You need shop here, not there, diet, not diet, live here, not there, this school, not that school... And the list goes on. Our weakness are exploited, all for the almighty currency of your choice, or for power and prestige, just so you can say 'Im better than you.' Abuse of people and power, and those creatures and things around us is never ending, and has been with us since humankind existed, so I have no hope for any of us. *none*. Ok, rant over, it's safe to come out now. 😋
Ashley Baker (4 дня назад)
❤️
Paige Sanders (4 дня назад)
14:19 tissue?
Moumanti Podder (4 дня назад)
I am so happy for Grace :-) And this lady is amazing <3 <3 Such a resilient character <3
Sara K (4 дня назад)
reminded me of colonia dignitas
Oof I’m Bree (4 дня назад)
I love her accent.
dayof thelords (4 дня назад)
amazing!!!
loungona (4 дня назад)
Why do cults still exists nowadays? WTF
Leo (4 дня назад)
14:21 bless that woman trying to offer a napkin
Lisy Bun (4 дня назад)
grow up in China. all on points.
Sarah Chung (4 дня назад)
i can hear the spit in her mouth please help
xxoxia (4 дня назад)
I wonder what they would do to the women who couldn't have babies.
gigi black (5 дней назад)
Why is this cult not shut down by now, after all the people that have come forward.
Sir Chris (5 дней назад)
"leadership skills" yeah right sure
Any S (5 дней назад)
Funny how every person there has storytelling skills
Yvonne Bocman (5 дней назад)
she is the real definition of beautiful
Sophie Hamilton (5 дней назад)
So contrived its making me feel sick.. far too many hours spent crying in front of the mirror. It's like a bad Oscars speech
G G (5 дней назад)
She needs to make some asmr vids
Katnatnp (5 дней назад)
at 14:20 in the lower right you can see someone try to give her a tissue
Cameron Vadnais (5 дней назад)
I can`t stand her whiney voice.
Krystal koala (5 дней назад)
Are you telling a fictional story? Or your personal experience?
Naysia (5 дней назад)
So, it’s a crime to do this, in the name of christianity. It’s also a crime to be a christian and not agree with what they did. Obviously what they’re doing is wrong, and it’s even worse because they did it, in the name of christianity. Nobody is denying her experience. What are you trying to accomplish, by attacking christians that would never do this? Y’all need to stop looking for unnecessary arguments because we can’t help people that are going what she went through, if y’all keep choosing to fight the wrong people.
Multifandomxseriesx (5 дней назад)
this is the second time i watch this and i cried again

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